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Numbering 350-450 million people.
The ancestors of modern Arabs have inhabited the territory of the Arabian Peninsula since ancient times. In the 7th century AD As a result of the work of the Prophet Muhammad, the Arab tribes united and adopted Islam. After the death of the prophet, his successors, the caliphs, conquered significant territories in Asia, North Africa and Europe (Spain). Several centuries later, the Arabs were completely expelled from Spain, and in North Africa and the Middle East, mixing with the local population, they formed the Arab world, which, thanks to the unity of language and religion, still exists. American researcher Michael Hart called the Prophet Muhammad the most influential person in the history of mankind, because he not only created a new world religion, but also founded the state that led to the existence of modern Arab world.
In North Africa, the Arabs encountered local tribes - the Berbers, who converted to Islam and Arabic However, they still retain Berber languages and ethnic identity. Population of such countries North Africa, like Morocco, Tunisia, Algeria, are called Arab-Berbers, i.e. Berbers by origin, but Arabs by culture, and often by self-identification.
Next are the most beautiful, in my opinion, famous Arab and Arab-Berber women from different countries Asia, North Africa, as well as from the Arab diasporas of Europe, Latin and North America. The list will gradually expand.
The most beautiful saudi arab- human rights activist, fashion designer and TV presenter Muna Abu Suleiman/ Muna AbuSulayman. She was born on May 16, 1973 in the USA, when her father, a Saudi Arab, defended there doctorate in International Relations.
The most beautiful Iraqi Arab- singer Rahma Riyadh/ Rahma Riyad (born January 19, 1987, Basra, Iraq).
The most beautiful Kuwaiti Arab- TV presenter Hessa Al Loughani(born February 10, 1982).
The most beautiful Lebanese Arab- singer Miriam Fares/ Myriam Fares (born May 3, 1983, Kfar Shlel, Lebanon).
The most beautiful Palestinian Arab- Queen of Jordan. Rania (nee Al-Yassin) was born in Kuwait on August 31, 1970, into a Palestinian family who fled their homeland due to the Israeli occupation. After marrying Jordanian Prince Abdullah, Rania became a princess, and after her husband's coronation, Rania became queen.
The most beautiful Israeli Arab - Hanin Zoabi/ Haneen Zoabi (born May 23, 1969, Nazareth, Israel) is an Israeli politician, member of the Knesset (Israeli parliament) from the Arab Balad party.
The most beautiful Jordanian Arab- actress Mais Hamdan/ Mais Hamdan. Born in the UAE. Father is Jordanian, mother is Lebanese.
The most beautiful Syrian Arab- actress Sulaf Fawakherji(born July 22, 1977, Latakia, Syria).
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The most beautiful Egyptian Arab- actress and model Arwa Gouda. Born September 27, 1984 in Saudi Arabia in an Egyptian family (her aunt is the famous Egyptian singer Safaa Abu Saud). Arwa Gouda represented Egypt at the Miss Earth 2004 pageant where she reached the semi-finals. In the same year, she won the Best Model of the World 2004 competition. Her height is 174 cm, weight 51 kg, body measurements: chest 86 cm, waist 66 cm, hips 89 cm.
The most beautiful Russian Arab - Shirin Al Ansi(June 4, 1993, Kazan) - actress, singer, winner of the Tatar Kyzy 2011 competition. Her father is Arab, her mother is . VK page - https://vk.com/id11297054
The most beautiful Algerian Arab-Berber- model Shainez Zerrouki/ Chahinèze Zerrouki. Height 177 cm, figure parameters: chest 82 cm, waist 61 cm, hips 90 cm.
The most beautiful Moroccan Berber- singer (other spellings - Mona Amarcha, Mouna Amarcha). Born in Casablanca (Morocco) on January 1, 1988. By nationality she is a member of the Berber Riffian people. The singer released three albums, all of which went platinum. Mona is especially popular in the Gulf countries. The singer currently lives in Dubai (UAE). The work of this Moroccan singer can be attributed to the Khaliji style, i.e. to music for folk dance of Saudi Arabia and the Gulf countries. Khaleeji is danced by women, usually in groups.
The most beautiful Tunisian Arab-Berber- actress Dorra Zarrouk(born January 13, 1980, Tunisia).
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The most beautiful filipino arab - Marie-Ann Umali / Marie-Ann Umali- representative of the Philippines at Miss World 2009. Has Lebanese roots.
The most beautiful American Arab- actress Shannon Elizabeth Fadal/ Shannon Elizabeth Fadal. Born in Houston (USA) on September 7, 1973. Her father is Syrian, her mother has German, English, Irish and even (Cherokee) roots.
The most beautiful Colombian Arab- singer Shakira(born February 2, 1977, Barranquilla, Colombia). She is the most successful Colombian singer of all time and the most successful Latin American singer of our time. Full name- Shakira Isabelle Mebarak Ripoll. Shakira has Arab-Lebanese roots on her father's side, and
Stars scattered over the desert and hot sand. Bitter, half-drunk coffee and long conversations with my mother, who begs me to come to my senses. Furious drive, exoticism and a seductive accent of crazy and passionate declarations of love.
This is how everything looked a year ago. “Alexandra, how do you say “I love you” in Arabic?” I ask my counterpart. The girl strains her memory and averts her eyes to the side. He thinks for a long time, about a minute - “Ana akhebek.” There is pain and despair in the voice. It was from these words that everything changed in her life.
Today it is not so difficult to meet a girl who has become a hostage of feelings for an Arab. Marriage to a person who belongs to Eastern culture is very serious. Your fateful “yes” really turns the course of your destiny in a different direction. There, to the East, where the Tigris and Euphrates carry their waters. After all, accepting your beloved man and not accepting his mentality is unrealistic. However, even today - in the era of universal access to information - many of our countrywomen, marrying representatives of Eastern culture, feel less like “Roksolana” and more like “Alice in Wonderland”. Moreover, these miracles bear little resemblance to the miracles of Aladdin’s lamp.
What is it like, happiness with an oriental handsome man? What can modern Roksolans hope for and is it necessary to exchange a fashionable mini for an Abai (a wide dark-colored cloak)?
No one was looking for clear answers. After all, firstly, an Arab is just a nationality, and not a specific collective image. And there is no point in pinning stereotypes on him. And, secondly, there are more unhappy stories.
Why? Probably because people mostly rejoice quietly and cry loudly. However, the characteristics of the relationship between a man and a woman among people from the East are actually encoded almost at the genetic level. And the dominant position of men in the family is dictated by Islam - this is an indisputable fact. The question is how it is interpreted by a Muslim: to consider a woman his property or simply to reserve the right of the last vote. All this depends on upbringing, character, and even on the country where your loved one is from. I’ll say one thing for sure: Arabs give very beautiful courtship. “They know how to drive you crazy,” our girls admit.
How? First of all - with words. Compliments like “your eyes are like the sea” or “where did such an angel come from? unearthly beauty“, you must admit, against the backdrop of the jargon we are used to, they still make an impression. It happens that girls are attracted by gifts or financial opportunities of oriental handsome men, although the stereotype that all Arabs are well-off is very often more erroneous. Another motive may be the status itself “married to a foreigner,” but this is more a topic for lovers of marriage agencies and specialized sites on the Internet.
After beautiful courtship, love often breaks out. Many people warn: don't fall in love with Arabs, because they all go home sooner or later. Oh, believe me, this is not the worst thing that can happen. However, I’ll make a reservation right away: every love story, regardless of who its character is, is individual. It’s not for us to judge, we just catch trends. As, in fact, in the story with which this article began.
Diagnosis of a broken fate
Eyeshadow “Ruby rose” - this was exactly the first gift from a handsome Arab student. Indeed, to condemn these feelings to commercialism, as is often done in the case of oriental beauties, is more than ridiculous. We went to a disco several times, and even less often to a cafe. Mostly we walked around the city and talked. Alexandra was thrilled by the numerous compliments of Amar, a future dentist from Iraq. When she fell in love, she didn’t even notice, but one day he said that he couldn’t live without her, and the girl realized that it was mutual. Of course, questions arose regarding his faith and his traditions. “Everything will be fine, my life,” the handsome man assured. “I love you as a Christian, and therefore I will love our children.” He swore that he would do anything for Alexandra’s sake, that he would live in Novosibirsk so that neither his wife nor his children would know the fear of war. Parents? Of course I'm against it. But this factor was so insignificant against the background of their Great love who can overcome anything. In any case, Alexandra was sure of this. Over time, her parents reconciled and accepted their exotic son-in-law - especially since the newlyweds were both still studying, so they lived at Alexandra’s house for now. A year later they had a boy. It seemed that this was family happiness.
“We have to go,” Amar pulled out some kind of certificate from his pocket. He said that he was very sick and urgently needed surgery. “They don’t do this in Russia,” the young man assured. “Only in Iraq.” The diagnosis was confirmed by three doctors. Their son was barely seven months old, and the prospect of such a long journey frightened the young mother. However, Amar categorically forbade leaving the child at home: “We are one family. And now we should always be together. What if I die there? I need you".
Arab family
Indeed, family comes first for Arabs. But family also includes their brothers, sisters, mom and dad. Among everyone in Amara’s homeland, Alexandra felt like an unnecessary foreigner. The girl was forbidden to go outside, dressed in a hijab (scarf) and Abaya (wide cloak) and slowly began to explain the laws of Islam. Islam for Muslims is more than just a religion. Alexandra asked Amar not to delay the visit and to quickly go to the doctor. “Which doctor, stupid?” - She heard in response. It turns out that her beloved simply meanly deceived her. It was July. They both go to school in September. Having returned to her homeland, she and her child will never come here again - to a country where the closest person has a different face. Other manners. Another Amar. Amar, who obeyed his parents and family in everything, who simply hated his Christian daughter-in-law.
In August, the man said that, according to the laws of Iraq, he must join the army for six months and, leaving Alexandra and his son with his relatives in the city of Dahuk, he simply disappeared. Amar’s father had the girl’s documents, and the phone “mysteriously” disappeared immediately after her arrival. "Depart military service“As it turned out later, Amar went to Novosibirsk, where he needed to complete his studies. There, mutual acquaintances saw him and told Alexandra’s parents about it, who no longer knew whether their daughter was alive. Mom found her son-in-law and forced him to call Alexandra. The conversation was carefully controlled on both sides. The girl could not say anything, but, telling how luxuriously she was received in Dahutsi, she could not resist and cheated: “Mom, press on the horse and pull the bridle.” The mother understood: her daughter and grandson needed to be saved. By involving the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, the parents finally achieved that six months later Amar left for Iraq and brought his wife to Novosibirsk. But... without a child. According to Islamic law, the child always remains with the father. And although the boy is a Christian and Ukrainian by nationality, Amar’s relatives refused to give the child to his mother. Did they love their grandson that much? No. And Alexandra was convinced of this back in Dahutsi. When the boy took his first steps, the Arab grandfather scolded him out of anger at his daughter-in-law: “You are a puppy! If it weren’t for you, none of this would have happened!” It’s just that if a Christian woman takes her child with her to the “infidel” land, it will be a shame for their family. And shame, according to Arab belief, is longer than life. Alexander heard her son’s first words only over the phone: twice she was allowed to talk to the child. He doesn't know the word "mom" yet.
The Arabs very often build strong family begins with building relationships with the husband's family. “They are me,” almost every second Arab will tell you. If his parents accepted their daughter-in-law, the marriage can already be considered half happy. If something doesn’t work out, you can complain to your father-in-law or mother-in-law - Arabs are very obedient to their parents. If the parents-in-law are against it, then it is better to separate immediately. Your marriage will not be happy. Especially if you plan to live in his country. Many things that are acceptable to the average Muslim woman may shock and outrage you.
For example, among Muslims, women communicate with women separately from men (you must remain silent in front of men). You can eat only when the whole family is at the table and when the father, the head of the family, gives permission. He also determines the duration of the meal. A Muslim woman will calmly accept a request not to go to the market. Usually men buy food for the family. It would also be normal for a Muslim woman to give preference homework and raising children. A man's job is to provide for his family. Of course, there are also Arab women who work, but then it is desirable that it be work with other women (beauty salons, ateliers) or with children (schools, kindergartens, etc.).
If you plan to travel to your loved one's homeland, discuss in advance whether you will accept his religion or wear it national clothes and what exactly will be your responsibilities around the house. Not to mention the fact that it would not be amiss to clarify whether your potential soulmate by chance has another wife. According to Islamic law, a man can have up to four wives at the same time. But if so, then he must be more than well provided for, because Allah allows you to marry each subsequent woman only when the man can provide for her.
If you already have children, give them Russian citizenship. And under no circumstances change your citizenship or the citizenship of your children. Our civil services will provide assistance abroad only to their citizens. In general, since you have already fallen in love with an Arab, learn patience, understanding and tolerance. You accept into your life a person of a different culture and faith, so you will have to show, first of all, respect for many things that are unusual for you. We must be responsible for our actions. And marrying an Arab is an act that requires great courage.
Lotus flower love
“Our love is a continuous struggle with public opinion“,” Marina takes a sip from a cup of green tea. A friend of mine gave me her phone number, and going to meet the Arab’s wife, I expected to see a slightly different type of person. Marina looked stylish and fashionable - white linen trousers, a caramel-colored blouse and beautiful white sandals with embossed lotus flowers on leather straps. Nothing extra or bright, but stylish.
“Although we have been married for more than seven years, I am still tired of ridiculous questions and warnings...” - at this moment I am timid, because I myself have prepared several provocative questions. I decide to just listen. “You know, Muhammad often repeats that our feelings are like a lotus flower - white, pure and drawn to the sun. And from darkness or bad weather, the lotus simply closes itself with petals to protect itself.”
Arabs are generally disliked all over the world. Especially after the terrorist attacks. But, believe me, just on September 11, 2001, I was in my husband’s homeland - in Lebanon, and I saw “from the inside” how these “terrorists” went to the mosque - even those who were not very pious, and prayed for the people injured in the terrorist attack and for their families, as they asked for forgiveness from every tourist who came. Understand that religion can be interpreted in different ways. All Arabs, just like Russians, are different. And all Arab families are different. My husband and I first came to his homeland when our daughter was two years old. When we were getting ready to get married, Muhammad informed his relatives by phone, and they did not offer any resistance. The only thing is, when we arrived in Lebanon, the mullah married us again according to their laws, despite the fact that we already had a child (in Russia we simply got married). I am a Christian. Nobody forced me to accept Islam, only one day my husband’s relative asked if I had a desire to change my faith. I said that it didn’t arise, and this issue was not raised again. Maybe because even before the wedding I told my husband that I would never accept another religion.
Arabs also really value whether you have a good education. I have two diplomas, so I was guaranteed respect, and I felt it in relation to myself. Although, I was probably very lucky with my father-in-law - they just wonderful people. And although many say that a Muslim woman is not a person, I did not notice this. Muhammad, it seemed to me, respects and listens to his mother even more than his father. And his father treats his mother with respect, because she bore him three sons and a daughter. In general, we often sat together in the garden in the evenings, and I did not feel deprived of attention. The only thing I would like to say is my position on important issues must be determined before the wedding. For example, before marrying Muhammad, I read a lot about the Koran, about his country and customs. Modern oriental writers are best suited for this - they illuminate reality without embellishment. For example, I am impressed by the Syrian writer Ulfat Al-Idlib. It would also be nice to start family life(not only with Arab) with simple question: What kind of wife does your beloved see next to him? And then think, can you become like that?”
Monologue interrupts phone call. Marina picks up the phone and smiles:
“Of course, beloved. Let it be orange." And then, as if embarrassed: “Mohammed prepares me fresh juice in the morning. So he stopped by the market and asked what fruit I would drink from tomorrow.”
I turn my gaze to the lotus flower on Alina’s sandals. I smile. The East - it can only be understood with the heart. With a loving heart. And what the land of stars and hot sand scattered over the desert will prepare in response - time will tell. The main thing is not to beg him for missed opportunities. And even worse - lost people.
"Generators unusual ideas", "masters of the family nest" and "desperate friends" - this is all about them, the Arabs. They are also spoiled, boastful and unpredictable. Personal experience girls, but not wives.
Oksana L. has been dating a resident of Jordan for four years, who came to Kyiv to study and earn money, and tells how she and her friend manage to combine such different views east and west.
About friendship and personal boundaries
We always have guests at our house. At any moment, a friend or just an acquaintance can call and come to our home in the middle of the night.
Naturally, as a woman, I need to set the table and make sure everyone is full and happy. Sometimes the house resembles some kind of Arab camp, and not a family nest.
If a friend needs help, they are ready to rush to him in the middle of the night.
They are always ready to help out a friend, come where they need to, pick them up, lend money.
They are not jealous of friends. My friend is very jealous, but this only applies to our Slavic guys and men, although I don’t give a reason. He trusts his own people. In any case, his friends, understanding who we are to each other, never allowed themselves even harmless flirting.
About work
They prefer conversations to business - long conversations over hookahs. These are real philosophers who are ready to reason and plan for hours. Although this time could be spent on constructive action rather than chatter, most of from which it will be forgotten the very next day. There is such a problem eastern men: Their conversations often diverge from their actions. They promise a lot, and they themselves sincerely believe in what they say. Plans can change dramatically, or mood, or something else, and promises will remain just words.
Arab men need to be encouraged - this is how they become inspired and are ready to move mountains for the sake of their family. This applies in particular to work. It is important for them to feel that a woman believes in their strengths and capabilities.
Generators of unusual ideas. In the four years I've known my man, he's started all sorts of businesses. Cafe, transportation of dogs and birds from Ukraine, which are in demand in his homeland in Jordan, processing of semi-precious stones, etc. But he didn’t bring any ideas to completion. I didn’t initially calculate the risks, I acted based on momentary desires, passion and emotions.
Many people do not value their parents' money. Young people live and have fun at the expense of their parents, and do not know the value of money earned not by their own labor.
Attitude towards women
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Most Arabs are spoiled by their mother's attention, love care and are often selfish. They like to surround themselves with everything beautiful and are avid fashionistas. They love to dress up: stylish clothes, shoes, an abundance of rings and bracelets. Favorite clients of barbershops: stylish beard, gelled hair, expensive perfumes.
They love to educate, and if they fail, they can use force. They put pressure on me morally. Very hot-tempered. Any little thing can piss them off. At the same time, their woman should admire them.
They love to brag about their woman to their friends - they tell them what a housewife she is, caring and a jack of all trades. It is important for them that others admire their woman, and therefore automatically admire them.
It is difficult to offer our men to live together - they are afraid for their freedom. Arab men, on the contrary, want the girl they like to be constantly in their sight. At home, nearby, close by. They are ready to protect and care for her, although they demand a lot in return.
Very generous. If possible, they give gifts to a woman, they love broad gestures, and are absolutely not stingy.
They value independence in our women, the fact that a woman can take care of herself, earn money and does not depend on a man as much as possible. In his homeland, women mostly stay at home and do housework.
There is a minus. Monogamy is not for Eastern men. How many times have I seen how families arab men They're after our girls. When my wife calls, they hang up or don’t pick up. And when they call back, they sing like a nightingale, as they love, and lie exquisitely about why they couldn’t answer. Treason is not considered as such for them. This is the norm in the life of an Eastern man.
About everyday life
My friend definitely won’t eat borscht for three days in a row, although he really loves my borscht. Arab men are very demanding and capricious in everyday life, like children and often dependent. If we talk about my man, he can clean and cook even better than me. But it is important for him to see that they care about him and do something for him.
I’m used to Russian cuisine, but my love for hummus and flatbreads remains unchanged.
Loves cleanliness, but not to the point of fanaticism. She understands that we both work a lot and come home very late, so we don’t always have the physical strength to clean and cook at night.
About children and family
My man is ready to coddle with every child, but I’m not sure he’ll get up in the middle of the night for his own. This is the wife's responsibility. And the man pampers his child and pays attention to him during short games. All other delights of education fall on the shoulders of the woman.
When married to a Christian, there is no choice in what religion they choose. joint child- he is a priori born a Muslim. Especially if we're talking about about the boy.
My man’s parents are wealthy and ready to support him, but he, having matured, when the youthful frenzy had passed and partying with friends was no longer a priority, wanted to prove to his family that he could get on his own feet.
A negative attitude towards alcohol remains - despite the love for discos (already in the past) and hookah smoking (this is part of traditions). He doesn't respect it when a woman drinks, even in company.
About future
After living with an Arab man, it’s strange to see how our women treat their Russian husbands. It’s crazy to see the disrespectful attitude and desire to be in charge at times. My views on what a woman should be like in a relationship with any man have changed.
I don’t know where this relationship will lead - Russian girls are more freedom-loving, ambitious and active. I wouldn’t want to be completely dependent on my husband...
But Arab men are like sweet nectar. You can’t get drunk, but even when you drink it becomes too cloying that you want plain water. But after nectar it seems tasteless. I’m like a tightrope walker halfway: I can’t go back, but the unknown lies ahead...
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