Will wedding candles help? Wedding candles and what to do with them

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Hello, father! I am very worried about what happened. I myself am very trusting and reliable. On October 10, I was walking down the street, a woman came up to me and put 3 candles in my hands, said: today is a big holiday, put these candles in your home, and asked for money to donate to the temple. I told her that if today is a big holiday, then I will go to the temple myself and leave money for a donation. I noticed that she was fussing, and she told me: no, no, you understand, we collect the money ourselves. I gave her money and left. I usually go to church on major holidays, and I know what dates they are on. But only later, after thinking about it, I realized that there was no big holiday on October 10, the nearest one was only Intercession. Now I am very worried that the woman gave me 3 candles, and I took them. Could this woman use candles to cause damage, the evil eye or something else bad? Please advise what should I do with these candles? Is it possible and necessary to throw them away? Or go to church with them and give them away?

Anastasia

Dear Anastasia, don’t be afraid of “damage” and all that. You are the Lord's and with the Lord. And this woman with candles is just a “creative” beggar. Candles can be taken to the temple, they will be blessed by the priest, and they will be set to burn. Your soul always feels disgusted after meeting a manipulator, but you will be consoled by the fact that you have fulfilled the Lord’s command: “Give to him who asks you.” Whether the person asking is truly in need or pretending to be, the reward will be the same. God bless you!

Priest Sergius Osipov

Hello! 7 days ago I buried my aunt, she was killed because she was in the ATO zone, and her funeral service was performed by the priest. During the funeral service, all relatives were given candles, and I was the only one whose candle burned out very quickly, while it also crackled and even went out twice, the funeral service took place on the street. Please tell me what this could mean?

Julia

Dear Yulia, please accept my condolences. Kingdom of Heaven for the deceased! It happens that people look for special meaning in everything that is somehow connected with the Church. In the case of a candle, there is no “spiritual” explanation, only natural ones - the candle quickly melts in the wind, and the wick cracks because moisture remains in it, it evaporates when the candle burns, and the air bubble bursts among the wax. God help you!

Priest Sergius Osipov

My mother died... During the funeral service my candle went out, does this mean something, or should I not pay attention? And I myself carried a wreath to the cemetery, this is also just superstition, and you can ignore it? Another question: should mom’s things and the bed where she died be given away (throw away) after 40 days, or is it possible up to 40 days? Is it possible to give away some of my mother’s things to friends before 40 days? Thank you, and forgive my ignorance on these matters. Sincerely,

Irina

Irina, don’t pay attention to superstitions. The most important thing your mother needs now is your prayer for her. Things suitable for use can be distributed to those in need or loved ones as a prayer memory, even if forty days have not passed, and what has become unusable can be disposed of.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon I have the following question: is it possible to read the akathist without a lit candle, because... It is not always possible to light a candle. Thank you.

Elena

Hello, Elena. A candle helps to get in the mood for prayer; there is no possibility - you can do without it. God help you.

Priest Sergius Osipov

1. Hello, father. I have a question. I have Small child 3.6 years. The child will have surgery soon, perhaps even this month. Tell me, is it possible to light candles in the ward during the operation and pray? The candles were brought from Jerusalem, which were lit on Good Friday from the Holy Fire. 2. My mother died on September 6, 2014, is this possible - sometimes I hear a groan, or is it just me, I don’t even know how to say it, although my deceased mother lived on western Ukraine, and I live in Moscow. Why is that? And I clearly hear these moans. I really don’t think about my mother’s death, I’m more worried about the child’s surgery. I wasn’t at the funeral, my child was sick, but when she was buried, I went to Mother Matronushka and lit candles for the repose and ordered a magpie for the repose, and the same thing for nine days. Tell me, what does this mean? 3. And also, please tell me, is it true that a child should eat prosphora strictly on an empty stomach? Thank you. Sorry for so many questions. Answer personally. God bless you.

Svetlana

Hello Svetlana. 1. The candle has an exclusively unitary meaning. Firstly, the purchase of a candle is a donation to the temple in whose shop it was purchased. Secondly, a burning candle symbolizes prayer. However, the symbol of prayer does not replace the prayer itself. Neither the Lord nor His saints require candles. Icons, candles and lamps are necessary for the most convenient mood of the soul for prayer. Therefore, lighting a candle in itself will not bring any benefit. But if you pray as fervently as a candle burns, the benefits will be undeniable. Regarding whether it is possible to light candles in a hospital room, ask the medical staff, I have doubts that this is allowed. Perhaps there is a temple, a chapel, or at least a prayer room at the hospital; it is better to pray there. 2. Do not trust your sensory experiences, they may be various reasons: power of imagination, painful memories, demonic suggestion. But it is absolutely certain: under no circumstances can we hear, see or communicate with the dead. According to God's providence, they are in another reality, which does not intersect with our world anywhere. But fallen spirits - demons - are in our world, and take advantage of the ignorance and gullibility of many. Once you trust your feelings, which are incapable of knowing and correctly perceiving the spiritual nature, the enemies of the human race, demons, will subsequently easily control this person. Forbid yourself to listen to the “moans”. Close the gates of the soul with the prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me.” 3. Prosphora is supposed to be eaten in the morning, after prayers, before breakfast. An exception can be made for a child, but it is necessary to teach a reverent attitude towards shrines from an early age. God help you.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello, I would like to ask for advice on what to do with wedding candles. I’m not married, and several years ago, either out of oblivion or ignorance (I don’t remember exactly now), I went with my friends to some granny, she read prayers there... she’s not a psychic, but some kind of she gave advice. So, she gave us wedding candles and told us to light and read the spell for 10 days... I started, but didn’t finish. Of course, I realized this sin a long time ago and confessed. But I don’t know what to do with these candles. I don’t dare throw them away, they are still church, but lighting them up is scary, that it’s a sin. Tell me what to do!

Olesya

Burn it in the stove. It is not a sin to burn something sacrificed to idols.

Archpriest Maxim Khizhiy

Hello! The other day I accidentally broke a wedding candle while attaching it next to the icons. Now I'm very worried. Is this bad, and what should I do? Thank you!

Marina

Dear Marina, don’t worry, it’s not scary at all, except that it’s just a shame when a memento is somehow damaged. But this does not stop the candle from being a wonderful reminder of a joyful event; let it continue to be with the icons. God bless you.

Priest Sergius Osipov

Good afternoon. Today I was treated with prayers... It was not in church, but at home. One candle was burning, and at one moment I felt bad - I felt dizzy, nauseous, and sweating.

Julia

Feeling sick because you trusted the servant of Satan. You need to be treated in a hospital. And to turn to God in a legal way and by legal means, through the Church established by the Lord Jesus Christ, who said: “Whoever does not enter by the door into the sheepfold, but climbs in elsewhere, is a thief and a robber” (John 10.1). “The sheepfold” is the Kingdom of Heaven, the “door” is the Church of Christ, “to climb outside” means to invade by witchcraft and magic where only God can lead. Thieves and robbers will be dealt with as they should be - they will be thrown out. We must repent and do penance before the demonic obsession begins to take effect. Otherwise there will be sorrows.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello, I have a question, when I was in church at a service, there was a funeral table a lit candle fell, I picked it up, lit it, and put it where it stood. And then I realized that you can’t touch other people’s candles or set them on fire. I don’t know what to do now.

Hello, Yana. Continue to do the same. A candle is simply a candle, a device for lighting, consisting of wax, paraffin and thread. On one side they set it on fire, and on the other they put it in a candlestick. A candle burning in a church symbolizes prayer, but is not itself a prayer - you must pray the way a candle burns - brightly, and not sparing yourself. The candle also symbolizes a sacrifice, but is not a sacrifice - a sacrifice for the temple is the cost of the candle that you put in the candle box. It doesn’t matter how the candle burns, goes out or falls, flows or not. Don't pay any attention to these speculations.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello! At my children’s wedding, the “hearth” candle they were lighting went out, tell me, does this affect their future family life? I’m very worried now, and the thoughts won’t go away.

Larisa

Larisa, such a candle is just a beautiful wedding tradition. But what will really affect family life is the ardent desire of both spouses to save the family, their readiness for patience and self-sacrifice

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, father! Once upon a time I went to a fortune teller, she told me to buy candles in the church, and she used them to tell fortunes, but not to find out the future or anything else bad, but to find out what was going wrong in life then. I went to see her a couple of times, and then I didn’t want to go anymore, because it was wrong. My conscience torments me for this, that I went to her, I already went to church, confessed, repented. But I still have these candles at home, and I don’t know what to do with them, my conscience is tormenting me that they are lying at home, right to the point of psychosis. Tell me, where should I put these candles? I went to the priests, one told me that I needed to throw them into the river, the other said that I needed to bring them to church and throw them away, where they throw candle stubs. So where should we put them, to the river or to church? Help me, this is how you can go crazy, this torments me so much. Thank you!

Natalia

Hello, Natalia. It doesn't matter what you do with them. The main thing is that you remain determined not to sin in the future and not to betray Christ. A candle is just a candle. Lighting fixture. It becomes a sacrifice to God only when we light it with prayer, and set up our prayer so that it burns like a candle. A candle can be called a symbol of prayer, but in itself it is just an object. Go to the temple where you bought them, because the payment for the candles went as a donation to this temple, light them in front of the image of the Savior, and make three prostrations for each candle with the prayer: “Lord, have mercy on me, foolish, and forgive me my lack of faith.”

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

During fasting, should a candle burn all day, or maybe even night?

Lyudmila

During fasting, you need to practice ascetic deeds and prayer, but whether the candle is lit at the same time is not at all important.

Deacon Ilya Kokin

Hello! When I was cleaning, I accidentally broke the wedding candle, what should I do now?

Olga

Olga, you don't need to do anything. The main thing in our life is not the candle and its condition, but how we spend this life. You need to fulfill the Gospel Commandments, go to church regularly, confess and receive communion, in a word, be a Christian.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

During the funeral service in the church, the candle in my hands went out three times. I know that there were no drafts in the church. What does it mean?

Tatiana

Tatyana, candles can be of poor quality, and there is no need to attach any importance to this.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father. My mother died, and when she was being buried, my candle went out. There was no wind, it happened at home. I immediately lit the candle, and the funeral service continued. A friend says it's Bad sign. What to do?

Love

Hello, Love. Don't take such words from your friends seriously - that's what to do. This incident doesn't mean anything. A person, living outside the tradition of the Church, is forced to invent his own content of life - signs and superstitions. Let us not follow this, but by praying regularly in church, let us become imbued with the understanding of life that the Mother Church gives. God bless you.

Priest Sergius Osipov

Hello. I asked for the health of one person in the temple, and when I said his first name and patronymic and last name, the candle (red, bought in the same temple) crackled very much, and the rest of the time it burned quietly. Does this mean anything?

Elisha

Elisha, it doesn't mean anything. Candles are of poor quality.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Christ is Risen! Help, please, I am very worried, at Easter I discovered that one wedding candle was broken, the children would not admit who broke the candle, what to do and what to do, what prayers should be read? Thank you for your answer, may the Lord bless you.

Olesya

Truly Christ is risen! Yes, you don’t need to do anything, this is not the needle of Koshchei the Immortal - if you break it, he will die. You can divide this candle into two and place it in church for the health of your loved ones.

Deacon Ilya Kokin

Hello, father! Please tell me what this could mean: I was in church at Christmas and bought candles there. She placed several of them in the temple, and brought several home. In the evening we decided to light a candle at home near the icons. When the candle was burning, the wax began to fly off from it in large, pretty pieces and fall. I examined one of the pieces, and saw there the image of a woman holding a baby in her arms. Before, when candles were burning at home or in church, I had never experienced anything like this. Tell me, what could this mean?

Natalia

Natalia, you don’t need to imagine or imagine anything. Candles “shoot” like this only because they are very often of poor quality, made in violation of manufacturing technology.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, father. Recently, at the entrance to our city church, a sign appeared at the entrance: “Candles purchased outside the church are not a charitable sacrifice.” For some reason, this inscription jars me, I want to turn around and leave, is such a protrusion of material things in God’s house compatible, after all, people go both with grief and with gratitude, namely to God, and to them here - here you go, please, God cannot exist without money accepts... It is clear that the temple also needs to exist for something, but after all, the temple is for the people, and not the people for the temple? Today just such a situation happened to me, I came to a new church under construction, bought candles at the entrance, but it turned out to be closed due to technical reasons, but I really wanted to thank the Lord for the successful operation, and I had to go just to that temple where “you can’t bring your own.” Of course, I did what I wanted, but some kind of negative aftertaste remained. I would really like to know your opinion, thanks in advance.

Hello, Yana. The candle itself doesn't mean anything. The custom of lighting candles is ancient. There was no electricity then, the temple was lit by candles and lamps. The parishioners brought everything they needed to the temple. Hence, by the way, the name “proskomedia” - offering. Everything needed for worship was brought by the parishioners. It was a feasible sacrifice, a divinely established tithe. Now the temple is illuminated with electricity, and candles and lamps are lit symbolically. The sacrifice for the maintenance of the parish is not the offering of candles, oil, Cahors and bread, but the purchase of all this in the church shop. I assure you that if you throw a ruble into a candle box, but do not take the candle and light it, then the benefit will be greater than from the same action, but with lighting a candle. Formally, the call to light only those candles that were purchased in this temple is logical. And even the fact that it causes embarrassment is also good. After all, there is something to think about: “It turns out that I am easily offended by such a trifle. What will happen if I encounter a person who is clearly sinning, will I hate him?” Lord have mercy.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Tell me what to do? Everything is bad in my family, big debts, problems because of these debts! I can’t sleep, my little daughter, there are no parents to help. I go to church, I pray, church candles I burn, I bless the apartment with holy water, but things are not going well, I give up! I beg you, I believe that you can help me.

Galina

Hello, Galina. Christianity has not developed means and methods for a successful arrangement in temporary life. All his goals and interests are beyond the limits of this world and this time. Christ set these goals, and no amount of prayers or candles can force Christ to stop being Christ. The reality is that we cannot live without sorrows. If we accept sorrows as a bitter but necessary medicine, with patience and complacency, then the sorrows are reduced both in duration and in volume. If we resist and are indignant, then we push away the bitter medicine. The illness intensifies, sorrows increase and lead to despair. I have no doubt that you will prefer the first path, because the second leads to nowhere. Start by forcing yourself to thank God. Give thanks for everything He gives. Nothing happens to us without His will. And His will is to lead all people to salvation and eternal life. This means that everything that happens to us serves this purpose. Let's force ourselves to be grateful. Towards life's difficulties, do what is possible, and leave the impossible beyond your attention. God help you.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

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This article is dedicated to both those who have already gotten married and those who are just about to begin this sacrament. Here you will find detailed answers to many questions, which are compiled according to the opinions and answers of Orthodox pastors.

Wedding candles are our main theme. Before you start reading, it should be explained that each sub-heading is a frequently asked question for married couples. The following is the answer to it.

Why get married?

There are several sacraments in Orthodoxy, one of them is wedding. It is necessary for the spouses to sanctify their marriage, to make a promise before God to always be together in fidelity, love, and harmony. At the same time, the husband and wife, together with the clergy, pray for the sanctification of the marriage. Be sure to take wedding rings to the wedding, which the priest sanctifies and puts on the newlyweds on their wedding day. ring fingers is a symbol of eternity. But in spiritual sense we're talking about about Eternity (precisely from capital letters), as about life after death. It is not without reason that they say that married spouses meet in heaven after death and never separate again.

What is needed and the question price?

If the couple is not rich, they will definitely ask the question: “How much does a wedding cost?” In fact, it is impossible to answer this question unequivocally.

Let's list what is necessary for a wedding:

• personal presence of both spouses;
• spouses (a suit on the groom, a modest long (preferably white) dress on the bride and a scarf/stole/veil);
• wedding rings, if there are none, then wedding rings;
• two wedding candles;
• towel (towel);
• two and Mother of God.

If you have the right clothes and shoes for the ceremony, then you don't need to spend on outfits.

Availability wedding rings from the registry office is allowed. No need to buy new pair. If there are none, then it is advisable for your husband to purchase Golden ring, and for the wife - silver. These were the traditions in past centuries, and they continue to this day.

You can choose the simplest and cheapest wedding candles, or the most expensive, festively decorated ones.

You can sew a towel yourself or ask your family and friends to do it. In church shops they are sold at different prices, depending on the material and complexity of the pattern.

You can bring icons from home so as not to buy new ones.

Which candles are better to choose?

Priests and married couples advise purchasing high-quality wedding candles only in church shops/shops. It is not advisable to buy second hand, as you risk getting a fake.

During the wedding, candles must burn and not go out. In addition, the sacrament can last from 45 minutes to 1 hour. Buy thick, large candles. It is even possible with handles and saucers provided so that dripping wax does not burn your hands.

The price of the sacrament

Let's talk about how much a wedding costs. In fact, it's different everywhere. In Moscow, as a rule, the cost is approximately 5 to 10 thousand rubles. Last price - Cathedral of Christ the Savior.

IN provincial cities the cost is ten times lower. Many priests perform weddings for a donation (as much as you give) or for free (if the family is in dire straits). Usually, married couple he simply donates a towel, wedding candles or clothes to the temple for those in need.

Where should I put the candles?

You brought home wedding candles. What to do with them now? You have two options:

• you can place it on candlesticks next to wedding and other icons;
• put it in a special box with shrines (oil brought from pilgrimage trips, land, baptismal shirts and crosses, holy water, prosphora and incense, and so on).

Keep candles in a secluded place so that they are not broken by children or chewed by pets. If suddenly the candles break, do not be alarmed, superstitions have no place in Christianity. Just handle them carefully.

Can I light candles?

Many who have just consecrated their marriage forget to ask the priest: “When can you light wedding candles?” But it's never too late to get an answer to this question. This is what the pastors advise - light wedding candles for a reason, but with warm and fervent prayer, especially in moments such as:

• grief;
• joy;
• wedding and wedding anniversaries;
• birth of children;
• quarrels;
• desire to pray for each other.

You can pray for other reasons.

In conclusion, let's say that a wedding candle is a symbol of faith, love and hope. It is enough to light them to bring peace and tranquility to your soul. And prayer will come from the depths of the soul itself. So that there are enough wedding candles for for many, many years, do not spare money, buy large ones and from high-quality material.

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Hello. My husband and I got married, but it wasn’t as expected. Firstly, we did not receive communion or confession, and secondly, we were late after the registry office, and our wedding was significantly shortened; the granny who sold the candles yelled and scolded us for being late and brought us to tears - but the ceremony was still held. I could describe the situation in detail for a long time - in general, my husband and I expected something completely different from what we received (although I in no way diminish our guilt). Is it possible to get married again in another temple if we really want to?

Alla

Hello, Allah! You cannot get married again. The sacrament was performed, regardless of the setting in which it took place. God's grace is poured out on everyone equally, but it depends on us how much we can accommodate. In fact, this an important event like a wedding, it rarely goes without temptation. In your case, this is your lateness, the bad manners of the servant in the temple. And it happens that the priest is an hour late due to traffic jams. Joint confession and communion are a tradition. If you went to church more often, you would do this too. But now there is no need to think that something was done wrong. Take more care that you have a strong Orthodox family, visit church and take communion together. Many spouses do this.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon What remains from my parents (unfortunately, they are no longer there) are wedding candles, rings and my mother’s wedding dress. Do I need to light these candles or just store them? And is it possible to wash a wedding dress?

Marina

Marina. Wedding candles can be lit or stored – at your discretion. The wedding dress can also be washed.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon Please tell me how to store and how wedding candles can help? Thank you!

Dmitriy

Dmitry, Wedding candles are kept next to icons or in a holy corner. Wedding candles by themselves cannot help. God, the Mother of God and the Saints help us when we turn to Them in prayer, and at the same time our life should be Christian, built according to the Divine commandments. Wedding candles can be lit at home on major church holidays.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please tell me, my husband and I have been married for 10 years and are now expecting a child. We want to get married, can we do it now? If so, how to properly prepare for this sacrament? To our shame, we are not parishioners (baptized), we go to services occasionally. They asked at the church and said to sign up three days before the date, fast for three days the day before, confess and take communion. I thought for this you need to first come to a conversation with the priest? And other questions: what kind of clothing is acceptable, what rings can be purchased for a wedding, how to choose the day according to the calendar on which the wedding takes place (we asked at the reception, they didn’t answer us anything specifically), they wanted October 13, but there is 14 Pokrov, they asked , we were not told whether there would be weddings on this day. So I’m writing here, please excuse me for disturbing you. If you can, please clarify the situation a little for us. Thank you! And another question: can guests at a wedding be unregistered? Thank you all the best!!!

Svetlana

Hello Svetlana! Wedding is a sacrament of the Church in which God gives the future spouses, upon their promise to remain faithful to each other, the grace of pure unanimity for a common Christian life, the birth and raising of children. Through weddings, the Church unites people for their mutual assistance and growth in love for God and each other. So that they learn together to fulfill the commandments of the Gospel and teach this to their children. If spouses approach a wedding with such a goal, then God helps them survive all life’s hardships together and preserve mutual love. Those wishing to get married must be believers, baptized Orthodox Christians. They must deeply understand that the unauthorized dissolution of a marriage approved by God, as well as the violation of the vow of fidelity, is an absolute sin. Weddings are not performed: on Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday, on the eve of the great twelve and temple holidays, on the eve of and during multi-day fasts, during Christmastide, Cheese and Holy Week, on the holidays of the Exaltation of the Cross and the Beheading of John the Baptist. For the wedding, you must prepare two icons: the Savior and the Mother of God, with which the Church will bless you after the Sacrament, two wedding candles and a long new towel. You can take your wedding rings, but if you wish, buy gold or silver ones, you can buy them in the temple with the words “Save and Preserve.” Clothing should correspond to the solemnity of the event, be strict and not too revealing. A headdress is required for women. Makeup should be modest, without lipstick, as you will be touching sacred objects. Women are not allowed to participate in the Sacrament during critical days. Before the wedding, prepare for confession and communion. You can take communion the day before or on the day of the sacrament, whichever is more convenient for you. But it is still advisable to talk to a priest to find out the nuances. If this cannot be done on a duty day, then you can approach the priest for confession.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon Please tell me what to do. When I got married, my parents blessed my future husband and me at home with an icon of the Kazan Mother of God with a towel. My husband’s parents did not bless him; in their opinion, this is an unnecessary archaism. After some time we got married. We received the towel, the wedding couple, and the candles in the church. Now we have a wedding couple at home (with the image of Jesus Christ and the Kazan Mother of God), and another icon with the image of the Kazan Mother of God, with which my parents blessed us. Would it be correct to place them together (at our house we have one red corner for icons)? And what is the right thing to do in this case?

Evgenia

Evgenia, it will be very good if all your icons are located together. And don't forget to pray before them.

Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev)

Hello, Abbot Nikon (Golovko), Christ is Risen! Please tell me where they are located wedding icons in the house? I found information that wedding candles should be carefully preserved throughout your life and lit during prayer in difficult moments of life, is this true? Please explain, what does the service mean and at what moments is it ordered in the Church? About 2 months ago, I said that if the business I started succeeds, I will donate my gold chain to the Church. It worked out, with the help of the Lord, but I don’t know how to do it! Can I just put it in the begging box? Please answer me by email. address, thank you! Thank you for everything! God bless you!

Svetlana

Svetlana, wedding icons should be placed in the red corner, along with all the other icons, maybe even at the top of the corner. As for candles, you were told correctly; they can be lit in prayer during difficult life moments. Requirements are those services - prayers, memorial services, sacraments of baptism, weddings, confessions and others - that are performed at the request, demand of parishioners. As for your donation, it is best to give it personally to the rector of the temple or the elder.

Hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Good evening. My husband and I got married. And at the very beginning of the wedding, when the priest led us to the analogue, the candle in my hand went out. I lit it from my husband’s candle and it never went out. I came home, read a lot of unpleasant things and was very upset. A sign of death, and in general, not a very good one. And we are expecting a child and somehow I got very excited. Please tell me how should I feel about this? Thanks in advance for your answer.

Pauline

Hello, Polina! I congratulate you on such a great sacrament. Do not doubt anything and fear only the Lord God. Believing in omens is a sin.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Many newlyweds are concerned about the question of what to do after the wedding with wedding candles or a towel? Store carefully? But not everyone is sentimental. Throw it away? The hand doesn't rise. After all, these objects are witnesses to the sacred sacrament that united you with your loved one!.. And what do traditions say?

Wedding candles

Church candles have special symbolism. This is not just a light dancing on the end of a wax stick! A burning candle is the embodiment of our faith, fiery prayers and requests with which we turn to God. And in your case, it is also a sign of marriage, incorporating happy emotions, hopes and dreams that filled the hearts of the young at the altar. Is it possible to burn it or throw it away like an ordinary cinder?! Even if both spouses are inveterate pragmatists, they are unlikely to dare to do such an act.

What to do after a church wedding with this important attribute sacraments? Traditions dictate that the candles be taken home, carefully wrapped in a clean handkerchief and left behind the icon with which the parents blessed the couple for marriage. However, which image to choose and the method of storage depends on the wishes of the spouses. You can do without a scarf or, for example, pack cinders in paper bag, away from dust and direct sun rays. The main thing is to find a clean and pious place for storage - it is not advisable to use a desk drawer or kitchen cabinet.

Whenever a disagreement arises between spouses, one of them falls ill or is forced to go on a long business trip, candles are taken out from behind the icons and lit for a short time. Just enough to pray from the bottom of your heart for your soulmate, and, looking at the light, to resurrect in your heart the feeling of unity and joy that you experienced in church.

Wedding candles are kept in the family all their lives, and when the time comes for the spouses to go to another world, the cinders are placed in a coffin or burned. You didn't know about the custom and burned both candles? Don't worry, no trouble will happen. Let it important symbol family union, it is not he who determines happiness in marriage, but God's grace and mutual efforts of husband and wife.

Rushnik

What to do with the towel after the wedding? There are even more options:

• Use it as a napkin under wedding icons - it will be elegant and a worthy place for an iconic item.
• Fold and store in a closet for easy access during important celebrations. family dates. In the old days, it was the norm to pass skillfully embroidered colorful wedding towels from parents to children, and even in our time, many people support this glorious tradition. Maybe it will take root in your family too?
• Take it to the temple. There, the towel will be given to less wealthy couples or used at the discretion of the clergyman.

What to do with a towel after the wedding so that it serves to strengthen the marriage? Just like candles, a wedding towel is taken out in moments of strife and sorrow. Some lie down and cover their heads, some put them under the pillow. And others closely examine the bright patterns of the towel, while reading a prayer or remembering pleasant moments of marriage. One way or another, the meaning is always the same: calm down, be in silence and try to tune in to a peaceful mood. A moment of respite taken at the right time can reduce the conflict that flared up to zero and strengthen mental strength person in the hour of trial.

What you cannot do after the wedding is fall into fetishism. Traditions are traditions, but also common sense no one canceled. If it so happens that candles, a towel or other thing you left as a memory of holiday, turned out to be lost, on quality family life this will not be affected in any way. Your family happiness depends on you, and not on a piece of wax or a piece of fabric.

Vika Di May 31, 2018, 21:06

The sacrament of wedding is a serious, responsible step, one of the church rites that unites spouses in life and after death. You should prepare for it spiritually and physically, because this is a step towards family life until death separates the spouses. However, in Lately some couples thoughtlessly decide to get married, without realizing the seriousness of this action. Such relationships are often short-lived. Unfortunately, marriages often break up. Divorce statistics in Russia are very disappointing - more than half of registered relationships end in divorce.

How to get a divorce if the spouses were married?

In practice, debunking does not exist. The spouses are divorced in the registry office, according to the laws, and live separately. If one of the spouses wants to get married again, then he needs to submit a petition to the bishop for permission to remarry.

This procedure is called “debunking,” although in fact it is receiving a blessing for a subsequent marriage

Thus, the answer to the question is it possible to get married a second time after a divorce - yes, it is possible, with the permission of the church. You can get married up to three times. But the reasons for divorce, according to church statutes, must be significant. An excuse like “they don’t get along” will not work.

12 Sep 2018 at 12:27 PDT

The Church has an extremely negative attitude towards any divorce, considering it a tragedy and a kind of death of the family. Especially if it's a wedding. But in any case, if family life turns out to be impossible for one or both spouses, then divorce is inevitable.

The consequences of this difficult decision may be difficult, but this is a matter of conscience for each spouse. The Church does not impose any contempt or punishment on divorced people - it's everyone's personal business, and they will answer to themselves and to God. Important question, which people who are planning to get a divorce should ask themselves - is it possible to save the family or is it impossible.

How does church divorce happen?

Since there is no such thing as a church divorce after a wedding, there is only the concept of obtaining permission to remarry, this issue should be considered from the point of view of receiving a blessing.

Reasons for for the church to declare the marriage invalid:

• betrayal of one of the spouses;
• change of religion of one of the spouses;
• entering into another marriage;
• abortion of a wife without the consent of her husband in the absence medical indications to termination of pregnancy;
• sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS, syphilis and so on;
• an attempt to encroach on the life of the other spouse;
• disappearance of one spouse for more than 3 years;
• inability to have children due to self-mutilation;
• severe form of drug addiction, alcoholism;
• if the spouse is sentenced to imprisonment for serious crimes.

Cause must be proven relevant document or other evidence or certificate.

Spouses must be divorced at the registry office before obtaining permission

To apply, you need to contact the local Diocesan administration, where they will tell you how to make a request correctly and in whose name.

The petition must be accompanied by a divorce certificate and other documents confirming the reason for the divorce. If the bishop considers the grounds for divorce to be compelling, he will give permission for a second wedding. However, if the spouse, through whose fault the divorce occurred - infidelity, entering into another marriage, and so on - wishes to get married again, then he will most likely be denied such a petition, since he is to blame for the collapse of his marriage. past family. You need to understand that They don’t just give blessings for a wedding.

If you are in doubt about what is the best way to proceed, you can always consult with your confessor or the same priest who performed the wedding ceremony. If this is not possible, you can go to a nearby temple and talk to the priest. Most likely, he will answer all questions and help with advice on what to do in the current difficult situation.

What to do with wedding candles after divorce?

The candles that the newlyweds hold in their hands during the wedding are called wedding candles. After performing their sacrament bring home and store along with the icons that were used to bless the newlyweds for marriage.

Wedding candles are not a shrine, so no special rituals need to be performed

Candles are possible burn for prayer or take it to the temple. It is not forbidden to leave them and store them in a box or next to the icons. You should not throw them away or give them to someone else. Although the signs and superstitions associated with candles are mostly fiction, it is worth finding a better use for them.

Rushnik (towel) You can also donate to the temple if it unpleasantly reminds you of a broken marriage.

Towel left after divorce

What to do with wedding icons after divorce?

Wedding icons are called paired icons with the image Holy Mother of God and Jesus Christ, with which spouses are blessed during the sacrament of wedding.

Icons can be donated to the temple, indicating that they are wedding icons. But icons do not depend in any way on when and under what circumstances they were acquired. Nothing prevents you from praying in front of them and lighting candles.

If wedding icons do not evoke any sad associations, then let them remain in the house, along with other icons, if any.

As for the wedding ring and dress, again, you can keep them or donate a ring to the temple, alter the dress or give it away, or maybe even throw it away. A dress, a ring - these are just things, memorable, but not possessing any mystical power. They do not in any way affect a person's life after a divorce.

You can donate a ring to the temple

Divorce is always a tragic event, even if it frees the spouses from an unhappy family life. Before legalizing a repeat relationship, you need to weigh everything and take the issue of getting married again seriously. Despite the fact that the church allows you to get married more than once, you should not use this permission lightly, especially if this is not the first wedding for the newlyweds.