A bright sign that your former relationships with someone have not yet been completed is the repetition of the development development scenario. That is, the very notorious "rakes".

When you part with all your partners on the same scenario. Or when one of the links of the business structure is constantly "weak" - whoever there will be started to work, it is constantly "bursting": people themselves fired from this position, or there are some events that interfere with business processes on this plot.

And in the case of personal relationships, and in the case of business relationships, if you want everything to go smoothly, you will need to be "torn in the root" - that is, to investigate the very first relations in which you first come exactly on these, already admitted You are now "Rake." And if these relations ended not quite calmly for all sides, you can try to align the balance now.

This is done with the method of system arrangements - if you have applied for help to the system therapist. But you can try to do it and independently - conducting the so-called alignment of imagination.

The easiest option of such arrangements that is available to anyone is alone with himself mentally imagine a person with whom relations have not yet been completed. If you are completely difficult with imagination - put some item opposite yourself to perform the role of this person. Next, I should, looking into your eyes your imaginary partner, calmly, without emotions to recognize everything that was between you, and how it affected you. And at first it should be recognized all the bad. But necessarily on a constructive model of the conversation.

For example, if a man left a woman, she can say the following: "You changed me. I was very hurt". Such a phrase speaks of a fact describing that bad, which was caused to her, but at the same time, and about her feelings. And all that is remembered should be in such a bundle: Fact - emotion, fact - emotion.

In other words, the conversation should be built as if you actually talk to your partnerBut constructively - without insults of the person himself, and with the statement of facts and your emotional state due to the accomplished. The conversation in such a way does not glow the situation, affecting the emotions of the partner, but allows him to explain the connection between what happened and follows this change of your emotional background.

And for such a scheme, I need to remember everything bad that I remember now - after all, if you still remember it, and even with emotions, it means that the partner is still deeply sits in you.

By the way, if such arrangements are not in the imagination, but with the help of deputies (people who temporarily depict your partner or even you, if you have a couple of assistants), then in the case of really unfinished with any relationship, you will see that you will see that Or the deputies cannot calmly look into each other, or you yourself will be quite difficult to do it. Even if someone from those who have confidential relationships with some of those who have confidential relationships in life are in the arrangement in the role of the deputy, and you are usually calmly in your eyes.

However, it is desirable for the purity of the experiment that people who occupy a neutral position in relation to the occurrence - that is, emotionally do not occupy a draw from the parties.

Ask, why use substituents for system alignments? I answer: the easiest way to deal with what is happening inside the system, if it is temporarily to get out of it.

  • Being in the position of a third-party observerYou're easier to see what actually happens between people, as they react to each other, where they look and what they feel.
  • Being inside the system It is difficult for you to objectively look at what is happening, and it is impossible to see everything that happens around - to someone you can be sideways or back, and this person can seriously influence what is happening inside the system.

But back to continue describing the arrangement of imagination. The next step: After studying everything I remembered bad, it is necessary to remember everything and good. For example, in the case of a woman described above, she could say the following: "I am grateful to you for love, which was between us, for our common children. If it were not for you, there would be no them either. " In general, if later, looking at his children, a woman can safely see their father's father - the previous partner of the woman, then the fate of the children themselves is more successful. Otherwise, the replacement of roles may occur.

How do the alignment of imagination work?

Very simple! If the mother tells the child that his father is bad, then the child subconsciously identifies himself with the "bad" dad and can manifest himself in a relationship with his mother just as the "bad father" did, and even repeat his fate, or even Harmful habits, although, it seems, there are no prerequisites in this for this. And it is very well illustrated by the arrangements according to the method of Berthe Hellinger.

That is why when conducting family counterparts in the model now, the existing family most often includes the former wives and husbands of family members, and even subsequent spouses of these "former", as well as those who were the very first love, even if these relations were not over the marriage.

So, if you really deeply hold a similar arrangement on the scenario described above, then you will feel the energy of the love that was once between you and your former partner. And this is the feeling of the flow of love and will be a sign that you have energetically completed your relationship with him.

The same principle is used to complete relationships with unfairly dismissed subordinates - if we talk about the aspect of business relations, and to complete relationships with comrades who have made friends - if any.

Although, as wisely noted one of my familiar psychologist, the word "betrayal" should be considered as what is happening from the word "transmit". And do not be any of the betrayal in your life, you may have never moved to a new level of our own development, where they were "handed over" - it's known for a long time: "Thunder is not born, the man does not cross" ...

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How often we hear not completely understandable terms. For example, "Helleringer's arrangements" - what is it? Let's start with the fact that the author of this method Bert Hellinger is a famous German psychologist, a philosopher, teacher and practitioner. His works are relatively young and are aimed at solving human problems.

What did he studied Hellinger?

The scientist formulated some laws and patterns that lead to undesirable events, conflicts between spouses or colleagues. Hellingler worked for a long time: "How is the adolation of feelings? How does the conscience affect (personal or family) on the lifestyle of the person? Is there a system that manages relations? " In fact, this is only a part of topics from the whole list of Berth's teachings.

To date, his arrangements are becoming increasingly popular. With this method, a large number of people were able to find the origins of their trouble and eradicate them. Many practitioners psychotherapists are increasingly using Helleringer's alignments in their work with groups, married couples or individually with a person.

"Alignment" is an individual in space. The method itself reminds the game of chess. That is, each participant is assigned a certain role that displays its subconscious image in a situation that requires elaboration. This may be not only a family situation, but also problems in the team, failures in business.

The method of arrangement by Bert Hellinger. Start of session

So, a man with a pressing problem comes to a psychotherapist. To begin with, the specialist leads a small conversation with him, during which it is decided whether he needs an alignment or everything is much easier. After all, it is possible to send a person by the usual everyday advice - and his life will go into the usual channel. But when the situation is complicated, a more detailed conversation is underway with the client.

To begin with, the problem itself is allocated. For example, in this case, a man drinks, his wife is "sawd" daily and believes that all family problems are associated with alcoholism. A man, in turn, does not think so. After all, before marriage, he did not use so much alcohol.

Psychotherapist asks the client to tell about his lifestyle. Helleringer's arrangements require systemic examination of the problem. That is, it is important to understand what is busy each of the spouses all day, what are their relationships in general, because of what conflicts occur. Finally, the individuals themselves are in family life or play someone's roles.

The specialist separately considers her husband's parents and his wife. How did they behave with each other in the family? If it turns out that from the side of the man, the father and mother lived in the soul and there were no problems with alcoholism, then the most attention is paid to the relatives of his wife.

After preparing at the first conversation, the specialist recommends a man to come to the next appointment with his wife. After all, the root of evil is most likely in it, and it is impossible to get rid of it without her participation.

After all, this did not have a family life, and she settled its daughter all the time: "Look, all men are the same. Your father is the same as everyone. He drinks, brings a penny home. " With imposed thoughts, the daughter will grow and unwittingly notices only negative features in the people around them.

Nevertheless, the girl begins to meet with her lovely guy. Soon, our heroine is married for him, but after a while it seems to her that her husband is not at all "her man." Whatever he did, she seems to be negative.

It would seem, the chosen one is not bad, his positive features outweigh the flaws. But the woman continues to maintain inner aggressiveness and in the energy level sends him negative. A man catches this signal, realizes that his partner despises, and gradually begins to look for consolation in alcohol. It helps him forget for a while, but the problem remains.

The following actions

The method of arrangements by Hellinger includes playing roles. Psychotherapist offers a family couple to lose a certain situation. For example, he asks a woman to describe how it behaves in the workplace. The patient commented on his official behavior, communication with colleagues, and it is found that at work it is "white and fluffy".

What is changing when she crosses the threshold of the house? Why is the husband with one appearance of an annoyance of a woman? Spouses lose the scene to the scene in front of the psychotherapist. The wife tells her her usual phrase: "I would stop drinking, and everything would be fine."

From now on, the specialist asks for a couple to stop. System-family alignments by Hellinger require on time to concentrate at an important moment. In the event of this pair, this time came.

The psychotherapist says a married couple: "Let's try to understand the source of the problem that forces one of you to drink." Next, they strike out all the reasons that contribute to this. For example, exclude: large monetary problems, conflicts in the workplace in a man, health problems. What remains?

The patient frankly recognizes that he is oppressed by the eternal discontent of the spouse, who constantly quit for something or, on the contrary, is silent and avoids married closeness. In this case, the partner suffers from the lack of female energy.

Often due to the lack of love for a partner or from a feeling of the offense, a female representative thus punishes the chosen one. They actively submiliate their energy into taking care of children or download themselves with their homework. While the spouse is trying to get some kind of positive attitude, using alcohol. There is a vicious circle.

In the future, Hellinger's alignment implies deep-to-erabe of the problem. In this case, the psychotherapist will try to inspire a woman's thought about the need to eradicate the installation that she involuntarily asked her mother.

By his behavior, his wife provokes a man to drink alcoholic beverages, in fact, makes playing her father-alcoholic to play. If, along with this, a woman still has a certain offense on the spouse, then in the process of the session it is proposed to get rid of it. "It is important to free yourself from negative," Bert Hellinger emphasizes. Family alignments offer a lot of techniques on this.

In fact, the whole process is not as simple as it seems at first glance. In the history of this couple, a specialist will have to give the heroes with new "roles", and so that a uniform exchange of energy takes place between them.

Effect of Egregor per person

After the session of the arrangement, it is possible to surprise: "How did it happen that I began to play not my role in life? Why did I speak in other people's thoughts? " In fact, few people think about whether he really does what he wants, and whether it lives as he wants.

In most cases, it turns out that daily thoughts, feelings and actions are borrowed by us from the surrounding people: their own family, team and society as a whole. In other words, a certain energy information space (egregor) has a direct impact on the identity.

Each society (collective) is subject to a certain system of values. The effect of Egregar can be both positive and negative. Each produces its value system. For example, the church egregor seeks to influence people through sermons.

And any terrorist organization creates its egregor, manipulating the consciousness of the participants a certain theory. Sometimes stronger identities can create their egregors and influence others. Such an individual should be the most energy-intensive, as its task is to lead and impact, that is, to manage many energy flows. The egrekhs are written in detail in one of the works of Berta called "Helleringer's alignment." The book tells that it is often the root of the problem may be in life values \u200b\u200btransmitted by the genus.

Lowish stories

Family genus is a system that has its own specific tasks. And family members (mother, father, son, daughter) - elements that must perform their functions. What happens if someone is knocked out of the system? For example, the Son did not wish to become a military in spite of the family dynasty. And my father really wanted it.

In this case, the function of the Son can redistribute between other family members or to replay: the daughter marries an officer. Father is insanely happy, trying to establish durable contact with the son-in-law and shares plans for the future about the continuation of the military tradition.

The German psychotherapist method deeply affects the problem of senior and younger generations. Is the Helleringer alignment? Reviews about it are different. However, most agree that the generic egregors can have a negative impact on the descendants.

For example, a young woman is deeply unhappy in marriage. It would seem that all methods of resuscitation of relations are unsuccessful, rudeness and violence reign in the family. Output one - divorce. But the older generation of this woman unanimously stirs: "There were no divorced in our family. This is not accepted and considered shame. "

That is, the generic egregor of this woman dictates her foundations to her and requires submission. Only a complete rethinking and rejection of the role of "victim" will help such a person to take an important decision and start a new life.

Inheritance aggression

Systemic arrangements in Hellinger help many family couples and individual personalities deeply realize the origins of evil. We present a simple example of a problem with which a man's psychotherapists are often treated.

So, a conditional young man came to the psychologist. He could not understand his behavior towards women. After numerous divorces, he stood before the fact - the elects go due to its unmotivated aggression.

In all other areas of life, a man seemed positive. During a conversation with a specialist, it turned out that the man once "unconsciously" tuned to the MRs' program. How did it happen?

As a rule, in such a situation it turns out that the patient grew in the family, where his father was constantly humiliated and depressed his wife. The boy could not resist his mother to protect his father. Thus, as young people agreed, the young man has developed its own plan (MRs program).

This led to the fact that, being in a relationship with the girls, he periodically felt the lute hatred to them. As soon as the appropriate case came, he dotted his malice with fists. The arrangement of Berthe Hellinger should show the man that these feelings do not belong to him. They are inspired and enshrined in consciousness from distant childhood. And the client has a different situation, and the girls have a different character than his mother.

And most importantly - he can become happy only when it is aware of it and starts to change. This process is gradual. Much depends on the natural personality temperament. One enough 2 sessions, and the other will require several. The method of arrangement on Berthe Hellinger is unique in that Knowing family systems (orders), a person can not only avoid failures in life, but also to protect the future generation from them.

How does a group method work?

It will be about group sessions. The phenomenon of these classes is that the group of people lives the role of acting persons in the client's problem. Situations can be different: a person cannot find a couple, constantly sick or experiences financial difficulties, although there are no good reasons for this.

The method of arrangements by Hellinger is difficult to clarify in detail, but it happens this scenario: the corresponding roles are distributed among the participants. And they begin to feel similar emotions asking for help. The phenomenon received the term "replacing perception".

That is, the transfer of internal images from the client on all participants and the space in which the arrangement passes. People chosen on specific roles are called "substituents." During the session, they estimate their condition aloud, trying to restore the problem situation.

Systemic arrangements by Hellinger help the chief person to unravel the ballot of their conflict situations, build the right hierarchy and restore the energy balance. The work is built by moving the "substituents" in the field of the arrangement due to various rituals.

A session can be considered successful if all participants do not feel discomfort. And - most importantly - the physical and psychological relief from the client should come. The method of arrangement by Bert Hellinger makes fully activate different levels of perception: emotional, mental, audit, tactile.

What gives this method?

As a result, the individual gets a new look at its problem, acquiring a different behavioral model. Of course, the best way to appreciate the technique is to take part in the group session. It is real experience that will help learn how it works in practice.

Nowadays, many have already heard of such a method as Helleringer's alignments. Reviews Negative about it are also available. But despite this, the popularity of this method is growing. After all, the range of sessions is quite deployed - it is psychotherapy, and medicine, and pedagogy, and even esoteric.

All information obtained during sessions is confidential. In order to participate in group work, Motivation and conscious desire must be present. To date, it is easy to find a group of Helliner's arrangement. In Moscow, the number of fans of this method is tirelessly growing, as he is recognized as professional.


Arrangement using tarot cards

Finally, we approached the part that imposes an esoteric imprint on the German psychotherapist method. The fact is that not every person can come to a group of people and openly talk about his problem. In this case, the personality can participate in the group session, but at his request there is a hidden alignment. That is, the client himself dispensing the openness of the information. A wonderful way out of this situation is the arrangement of Berthe Hellinger using Tarot's cards.

The deck in this case serves as a tool for the diagnosis of what is happening. The client ask a question: "What is your problem?" The person chooses, without looking, the card, and describes what he saw on it. "Deputies" are also selected, following the selected arkanams.

According to its problem, the client with the help of host tips shows each participant where he gets up and what to do. The next stage is the emotional residence of the situation. "Deputy" exchange impressions: "I now thought that ...", "I had a feeling of ..."

At this point, the client is also included in the process. He listens to the opinions of all participants and becomes the place of who hurt his emotions most. And, on the basis of the new role, he pronounces words that he considers important.

The arrangement is completed by the survey of each participant. Despite the fact that the client's problem is losing, "deputies" are also under the close attention of the psychotherapist. It is important for him to know how one or another man felt in someone else's role that worried and what conclusions did.

Also, a specialist can evaluate the diagnosis on the maps - in full, at full time it was possible to assist the client or the system did not fully disclose the situation? After all, the customer is immediately unable to objectively rate the session. To do this, he will need time.

Individual arrangement

Is it possible to spend a similar session? It is not excluded. After all, not everyone has the opportunity or desire to work in the group. In this case, the Hellinger is possible on its own.

True, it follows close to get acquainted with the theory of the method of Berthe Helling. And it is important at a professional level to understand the interpretation of tarot cards. So, the problem is designated, and the role of "substituents" will play cards. Work is divided into three stages.

First - you should choose the cards: yourself and "substituents". Next, you need to decompose the other cards as prompts intuition. Then, alternately open and with each collect information, folding it into the overall picture.

The second stage - depends on the question raised. If he concerns a family, then postpone the charts of the ancestors should be topped, the descendants - from the bottom. If necessary, you can take additional cards if doubts arise. During the process, it is necessary to move the "deputies", as it would happen to real people. It is recommended to listen to your physical and psychological sensations.

Third stage - Completion. This happens when the identity is satisfied with the lost situation. According to the results of the interpretation, only the client decide whether he worked his problem.

A farewell person may seem that it was a divination session. But this is far from that. An individual method of arrangement using tarot is shown only by professionals. The rest is recommended to resort to this method under the guidance of a qualified psychotherapist.

Psychology is a very difficult science that has many different approaches to the perception of a person, to his psyche, to what is happening in his head. There are methods that are considered scientific, as their effectiveness is confirmed by practice for many years. But new and new approaches are constantly emerging, and some of them complement the scientific component of psychology (naturally, over time, when they also pass a kind of test_. However, many methods remain unofficial - they do not recognize the scientific community, but at the same time they remain relevant In narrow circles. One of the most striking examples are systemic arrangements - a psychological approach, which, despite the fact that for many decades, no one has recognized, so far remains relevant and is used by the impressive number of his supporters. What is this Method? How do system arrangements occur? It is about this that will be discussed in this article.

What is the essence of the method?

Systemic arrangements are an unconventional approach in psychology, which is based on the fact that all human problems come from the family, or rather from the family system. Therefore, the essence of this method is to reproduce this system on the session to figure it out and find the true cause of the problem. This reproduction occurs in reality and is called arrangement.

Systemic arrangements have been practiced for quite a long time, but it has not yet been recognized as a scientific community. But people do not always turn to professionals - sometimes they are closer to what they want to believe, and many many people believe in this method. Perhaps the reason is that its creator is not only a psychologist, but also the theologian, spiritual teacher.

Founder of Movement

Since now I went about who founded this method, it is worth linger on this person. Systemic family alignments are the work of Berta Hellinger, a famous psychologist who was born in 1925 in Germany. He was engaged in psychology for a long time, he worked as a psychotherapist, however, as it was already said earlier, he was also a theologian. And in the eighties of the last century, Hellinger opened and introduced the method into appeal, which is in question in this article. That is why it is often called "System Family Planners by Hellinger." This variation is primary and most in demand.

Root method

The system of systemic arrangements is the original branch of psychology, however, it also has its roots. Hellinger created this method based on several psychological movements, which were relevant in those times. However, if you allocate the most important method that has most influenced the system arrangements, this is a script analysis of Eric Bern. The essence of this method is to analyze the life situations of each person (this psychologist also believed that all problems go from the family). He believed that each person had his own life scenario on which he was moving. The script is formed in childhood under the influence of parents and the environment and in the future can only be adjusted.

Hellinger acted precisely in accordance with this method, but at some point realized that he had his drawbacks - as a result, he developed his approach. Later, he was already named with systemic alignments and is known to this day precisely under the name. The systemic arrangements of Berthe Hellinger are quite high in narrow circles. It's time to figure out what exactly this approach represents.

Problem situation

So, what meant the system arrangements - this is not just a psychological term, the arrangements actually pass, and that's how it happens. To begin with, there must be any problematic situation of one of the participants in the psychological session. Actually, this situation is an element of a certain system, most often a family. It is with him who will have to deal with a group that participates in a session. The method of systemic arrangements of Berthe Hellinger involves the participation of all people, even those who are not familiar with anyone who consider whose problem with any of his family system.

How is the alignment?

The focus of the session is the history of the client, its problem situation. All session participants form a large circle, and the problem is presented in the plane in space between all people. Each element of the system is first presented in the imagination, and then his place in the real world is occupied by a person called the deputy. During the session, it represents a specific member of the system - thus the entire system is filled, and everyone receives its role. This is how the alignment takes place. In this case, this is all quiet, slowly and focused. Each participant concentrates on its feelings, trying to penetrate the essence of the person who he replaces at the session.

Substitutional perception

As mentioned earlier, the deputies may not know the client, nor his relatives, including the person who they replace in the system. And the client does not talk anything about them about them, so people have to focus and try to realize themselves, what kind of belonging they have. This is called substituent perception - people must be able to become the person whom they replace. Thus, the lack of information is compensated for by this phenomenon of substituent perception, without which the process would be simply impossible. It is likely that it is precisely this and repels professional psychologists and psychiatrists from this method - there are a lot of uncertainty in it, which is not possible to compensate for scientifically to help call the system of systemic alignments professional.

Sourse of information

The main source from which participants receive information about the problem, the client and the system as a whole is the so-called "field". That is why people have to concentrate and work in silence - so they are trying to establish communication with the field to get the necessary information about who they are replaced in the system, as well as what kind of "speakers" have their character with the rest of the system. It is in this way that the system arrangement occurs - each participant turns into a substituent, gets in its image, drawing information from the field, and then all participants are trying to reproduce the problem and solve it. The psychotherapist, which is called the arranger, leads the whole process, gives people the most suitable role for them, and also trying to help them solve the problem in the arrangement process.

The main goal of all this process is to accurately reproduce the situation so that the client can see it live live, understand it and take his problem. Only when he managed to do this, the session is considered successful. Then it is believed that he no longer needs to reproduce a specific problem in the terms of the arrangement, since he was able to realize it and could now go to her decision.

conclusions

According to people who practice this method, it really helps - participants can look at their situation on the other hand, try to evaluate what is happening impartially, do not associate all actions with their relatives and close people, which does not think rationally. And when a person sees a situation that is in real life unfamiliar people, he can understand that this is really his problem - and then he can start looking for her decision. Often the client is independently not capable not only to solve his problem, but even see it - it is for this for this purpose. The client looks at the situation with an extraneous look and gets a chance to see the problem in it in general, and then recognize its own.

I stopped resisting questions "how to make an alignment to myself" and began to collect constructive ideas :) Additions and new ideas are welcome :)

The arrangements for themselves (as well as in mind without a group, i.e. in general in proud loneliness) are difficult because the person himself cannot feel the excluded speakers in his system. If he felt them, he would have long been deciphered and lived. But he cannot feel directly and that's why he lives "Alien Fate."
Nevertheless, something is possible for himself.
Let's start with simple :)

The first idea: "went to the movies?"

So, go or not go to the movies? Do you go to the seminar of Professor Preobrazhensky? To stay in Upper Pyshma in the hotel "Sheraton" or "Hilton"?

Today at 19-00 in the cinema they. Mosovet walks the film "Elusive Avengers". Do I need to go there?


In the room where (preferably) there are no furniture and enough free space, place the place "I am in the cinema. Mossovet on elusive avengers today." You can place it, for example, a watman sheet. Just put watman on the floor. It is better not to leaf A4, because you are surrounded by space in the cinema, and in the arrangement it is better to be surrounded by space. Furniture is better smaller, so as not to literate the extra dynamics in chairs and tables, both from the cinema, and their own.

We get up at a distance from Watman, look at it and slowly go. We observe your condition. Sometimes already at this stage is felt, for example, an "insurmountable barrier". You can put it with a chair or stretch the rope.

Sometimes suddenly it becomes clear that "the kin will not", i.e. The object of our movement is simply not. If this event is really announced in the poster and it today (and not six months), then it is very strange. Two options - either he really will not be (you did not look at that poster), or you came with it to some kind of speakers and simply not able to put and see "just a movie." For example, in the cinema they. Mosovet 20 years ago Mitya said it is your last date. You have forgotten this for a long time, and I remember the body .... or it said to your grandmother's groom.

Just in case, you can put "where it actually leads me" (also inhouse) and see if this figure is visible. If the figure causes severe sensations and gets up another barrier - arrived. Kina will not. You are on professional placement.

The complexity in this arrangement is that the target object "Cinema" is quite difficult to deliver. For example, if on the cinema building. The Mossovet is attempted raiders from the Pipe LLC, the owners of the building and these raiders emit such a trash to the space that he can score anything. If the film "Cult" and he had already looked at Millon a man, then he already has "Egregor" and he can phoning so that you will not find yourself there. All girls are already in love with the lasover, and in place "in the movies" you feel the energy of the touched head of girls, and not in this cinema today.
Clean the trash and put the configuration as the professional layout could be a professional, but we do not want it to him ... :)

And yet: "I am in the cinema. Mossovet on elusive avengers today."
We stand on Watman, we feel. Well, how are you there today? :-))

You can complicate the task and divide the object on (for example): "What a film", "What are the people", "how to feed", etc.
It is possible that the film is garbage, then there you will meet Petya ... or classmate Masha and she will say that ...

Important addition: If we are talking about whether to go to the movies from Vasya from a parallel class, the alignment should be completely different! On this issue of the release of our broadcast.

About the hotel I put, for example, "silence". If there are no silence, then I do not need to "comfort", "location in the center" and so on.
The seminars can be separately installed "Personal Use", "Use in Learning", "People", "Status / for Paper", etc.