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We intuitively and subconsciously understand how to behave in joyful, easy life situations and holiday events. But there are events of a tragic nature - death loved one, For example. Many are lost, faced with their unpreparedness for loss; for most, such events are beyond acceptance and awareness.

People experiencing loss are easily vulnerable, acutely aware of insincerity and pretense, their feelings are overwhelmed with pain, they need help to relieve it, accept it, come to terms with it, but in no case add to the pain with an accidentally thrown tactless word or incorrect phrase.

You need to be able to show increased tact and correctness, sensitivity and condescension. It is better to remain silent, showing delicate understanding, than to cause additional pain, hurt disturbed feelings, or touch nerves overloaded with emotions.

We will try to help you understand how to behave in a situation where the person next to you has suffered grief - the loss of a loved one, how to properly sympathize and choose the right words so that the person feels your support and sincere sympathy.

It is necessary to take into account the existing differences in condolences.

The form of expressing condolences for the loss will vary:

• Grandparents, relatives;
• mother or father;
• brother or sister;
• son or daughter - child;
• husband or wife;
• boyfriend or girlfriend;
• colleagues, employee.

Because the depth of experience varies.

Also, the expression of condolences depends on the severity of the grieving person’s feelings about what happened:

• Imminent death due to old age;
• imminent death due to serious illness;
• premature, sudden death;
• tragic death, accident.

But there is the main thing general condition, regardless of the cause of death - genuine sincerity in expressing your grief.

The condolence itself should be short in form, but deep in content. Therefore, you need to find the most sincere words that accurately convey the depth of your sympathy and your willingness to provide support.

In this article we will provide samples and examples. various forms expressions of condolences, we will help you choose sorrowful words.

You will need:

Form and method of presentation

Condolences will be distinctive features in form and method of presentation, depending on its purpose.

Purpose:

1. Personal individual condolences to family and friends.
2. Official individual or collective.
3. Obituary in the newspaper.
4. Farewell mourning words at the funeral.
5. Funeral words at the wake: for 9 days, on the anniversary.

Serving method:

The timeliness factor is important, so in this way postal delivery should only be used to send a telegram. Of course, the fastest way to offer your condolences is to use modern tools connections: Email, Skype, Viber..., but they are suitable for confident Internet users, and such should be not only senders, but also recipients.

Using SMS to show sympathy and empathy is only acceptable if there are no other opportunities for contact with a person, or if the status of your relationship is distant acquaintance or formal friendly relations. Use this link to get it for different occasions.

Submission form:

In writing:

• Telegram;
• email;
• e-card;
• obituary - a mourning note in a newspaper.

In oral form:

• In a telephone conversation;
• in person.

In prose: Suitable for written and oral expression of grief.
In verse: Suitable for written expressions of grief.

Important points

All verbal condolences should be short in form.

• It is more delicate to express official condolences in writing. For this, a heartfelt verse is more suitable, to which you can choose a photo of the deceased, corresponding electronic pictures and postcards.
• Personal individual condolences must be exclusive and can be expressed either verbally or in writing.
• For the dearest and closest people, it is important to express or write sorrowful condolences in your own sincere words, not formal, which means not stereotyped.
• Since poems are rarely exclusive, exclusively yours, so listen to your heart, and it will tell you words of consolation and support.
• Not only words of condolences should be sincere, but also an offer of any help that is within your power: financial, organizational.

Be sure to mention the distinctive personal virtues and character traits of the deceased person that you would like to preserve in memory forever as an example: wisdom, kindness, responsiveness, optimism, love of life, hard work, honesty...

This will be the individual part of the condolence, the main part of which can be formulated according to the approximate model proposed in our article.

Universal mournful texts

1. “May the earth rest in peace” is a traditional ritual phrase that is said after a burial has taken place; it can be used as a condolence at a funeral service; it is suitable even for atheists.
2. “We all mourn your irreparable loss.”
3. “The pain of loss cannot be expressed in words.”
4. “I sincerely condole and sympathize with your grief.”
5. “Please accept my deepest condolences on the death of a dear person.”
6. “We will keep in our hearts the bright memory of the deceased wonderful man.”

Help can be offered in the following words:

• “We are ready to share the severity of your grief, be by your side and provide the necessary all possible help to you and your family."
• “Surely, you will need to resolve many issues. You can count on us, accept our help."

On the death of mother, grandmother

1. “The death of the closest person - mother - is an irreparable grief.”
2. « Bright memory about her forever in our hearts."
3. “How much we didn’t have time to tell her during her lifetime!”
4. “We sincerely mourn and sympathize with you in this bitter moment.”
5. “Hold on! In memory of her. She wouldn't want to see you in despair."

On the death of a husband, father, grandfather

• “I offer my sincere condolences and express my deep sympathy in connection with the death of a loved one who was a reliable support for you and your family.”
• "In memory of this strong man you must show fortitude and wisdom to survive this grief and continue what he did not have time to complete.”
• “We will carry the bright and kind memory of him throughout our lives.”

On the death of a sister, brother, friend, loved one

1. “It is painful to realize the loss of a loved one, but it is even more difficult to come to terms with the departure of young people who have not known life. Everlasting memory!"
2. “Allow me to express my most sincere condolences on the occasion of this severe, irreparable loss!”
3. “Now you will have to become a support for your parents! Remember this and hang in there!”
4. “God help you survive and endure the pain of this loss!”
5. “For the sake of your children, their peace and well-being, you need to cope with this grief, find the strength to live and learn to look into the future.”
6. “Death does not take away love, your love is immortal!”
7. “Happy memory to a wonderful man!”
8. “He will forever remain in our hearts!”

If you are at a distance, find out via SMS. Select the appropriate message and send to the recipient.

On the death of a colleague

• “We've worked side by side for the last few years. He was an excellent colleague and example for young colleagues. His professionalism served as an example for many. You will forever remain in our memory as an example of life wisdom and honesty. May you rest in peace!”
• “Her/his dedication to her/his work earned her/him the respect and love of all who knew her/him. He/She will forever remain in my memory."
• “You were a wonderful employee and friend. How we will miss you. May you rest in peace!”
• “I can’t come to terms with the thought that you’re gone. It seems like just recently we were drinking coffee, discussing work and laughing... I will really miss you, your advice and crazy ideas.”

To the death of a believer

The text of condolences may contain the same mournful words as for a secular person, but Orthodox Christian should be added:

• Ritual phrase:

“The Kingdom of Heaven and Eternal Peace!”
"God is merciful!"

My dear, I really sympathize with your grief. My condolences... Be strong!
- Friend, I mourn your loss. I know this is a hard blow for you and your family. I offer my sincere condolences.
- Gone wonderful person. My condolences to you, my dear, and to your entire family at this sad and difficult moment.
“This tragedy has hurt all of us. But of course, it affected you the most. Accept my condolences.

How to condole in Islam (Muslims)?

Expressing condolences is Sunnah in Islam. However, it is undesirable for the relatives of the deceased to gather in one place to receive condolences. The main purpose of expressing condolences is to encourage people who have suffered misfortune to be patient and content with the predestination of Allah. The words that should be spoken when expressing condolences are: “May Allah grant you beautiful patience and may He forgive the sins of your deceased (your deceased).”

How to send condolences over the phone?

In the case when words of condolences are spoken over the phone, you can (but not necessarily) add briefly: “May the earth rest in peace!” If you have the opportunity to provide assistance (organizational, financial - any), then this phrase is convenient to complete your words of condolences, for example, “These days you will probably need help. I would like to be of assistance. Count on me, call me any time!”

How to deal with someone experiencing loss?

It is not necessary to grieve, cry with him, letting someone else’s suffering pass through him. You will be much more effective in your help if you act rationally and thoughtfully. One way to cope with a loss is to talk about it repeatedly. At the same time they will react powerful emotions. You need to listen carefully to the person, answer his questions if necessary. Allowing a person to express his emotions and experiences. It could be tears, anger, irritation, sadness. You don’t make judgments, you just listen carefully and are nearby. Tactile contact is possible, that is, you can hug a person, take a hand, or sit a child on your lap.

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Condolences regarding death are words of grief and complicity with which relatives, acquaintances and colleagues support the relatives of a deceased person. Such words are addressed orally or in writing.

Life is fleeting and sometimes ends. Even tragic event happened to people I barely know, the news of this comes as a shock. The deceased may be a distant relative, colleague, or housemate with whom they occasionally exchanged phrases. Expressing condolences over the death in this case is the only correct solution. In this way you show your sympathy and help cope with the surging grief. Of course, all this works if the words of condolences were spoken from the heart and selected in accordance with life circumstances.

How to Express Condolences

How to express words of condolences regarding the death of your family and friends, friends and colleagues who have suffered a loss? It seems that the words are banal and empty. But you definitely need to express condolences - this is a long-standing tradition of expressing support for those who are in grief. We empathize, which means we are together. In moments of grief, even a few words of encouragement can help comfort those grieving and show them that we are there and ready to help. How to express condolences is not so important: the main thing is to say something from the heart, show sympathy and support those who are grieving.

Verbal condolences to the relatives of the deceased

Most often, condolences are expressed to relatives in person, in writing or by telephone. It is preferable to verbally express words of condolences, especially if you live nearby or meet at work or other public place. Other forms of condolences are used when the addressee lives far away or you need to be guided by the rules of etiquette, which require condolences in writing.

Another case of expressing verbal condolences is a speech at a funeral or during a memorial meal. Since such a ceremony is usually attended by people who knew the deceased well, it is usually not difficult to find sincere wishes.

Condolences on death in writing

Condolences on the death of in writing– ways of expression:

• By letter or postcard by mail. An old, but still relevant method. Often required by etiquette. Condolence cards should be selected in accordance with the sad event; the design should not be provocative or festive.
• The inscription on the mourning ribbon. Usually it is an invariable attribute of a ritual wreath or basket of flowers. You can read more about inscriptions in our article Inscriptions on wreaths.
• By email . Most often, this option is used to express condolences about a death to people abroad.
• Obituary in the newspaper. They choose the printed publication that the relatives of the untimely deceased subscribe to or read.
• SMS notification. If you are not an operator mobile communications, beware of doing this. Better make it short phone call. Exception: subscriber for a long time is out of reach.

Words of condolences

How to choose words of condolences for people who have suffered an irreparable loss? It often seems that all phrases are banal and can only offend the relatives of the deceased. Believe me, in moments of grief, any encouragement and manifestation of participation are very important. Those close to the deceased experience a lot of stress and are not always ready to show their emotions to others. Your support and affection will help ease their pain at least for a while.

Examples of verbal condolences for death

Funeral words should not contain falsehood or pathos. You say them to keep the other person in Hard time, not for expression own feelings. If you really have nothing to say, limit yourself to laconic phrases. It should also be taken into account mutual arrangement mourning with the deceased. It will be strange for a person in grief to hear “Blessed memory of your dad. Good memories are what will help get through this loss,” if in fact he and his father did not have the best relationship.

• I am shocked by the sad news. Be strong.
• My heart is out of place from what I heard. Rest in peace __.
• I can’t believe that such a person left us. This is an irreparable loss.
• The loss of a mother (father, brother, etc.) is always difficult to experience. We sympathize and empathize.
• The deceased and I did not always find mutual language. Now I would like to apologize for the disagreement. I'm not always right either.
• Please accept our words of consolation. How can we help you at this moment?
• We sincerely sympathize with your entire family. We know how kind and sensitive N was.
• Sad event. This is hard to talk about. We hope he finds peace in heaven.
• This is a sad loss. I'm sorry that she didn't live as long as she would have liked.
• Difficult to pick the right words at such a moment. Just remember that you can always turn to me for help.

Words of condolences can also be more personalized. This is quite appropriate if you knew the deceased personally. When offering condolences over a death, one should not talk about bad things, for example, about the reprehensible actions of the deceased. Only good things should be said, focusing on what positively characterizes the deceased.

How to write a condolence

When putting mourning words in writing, the question often arises of how to write a condolence message. In this case, you should stick to laconic phrases. Poems of condolence for a death are appropriate for an obituary or mourning ribbon. In other cases, they will smack of pathos and pretentiousness. Condolences in prose usually contain 2-3 sentences. Brevity and clarity of content are more important here. After all, a postcard or letter will be reread several times.

• __ was a kind and sympathetic woman. We mourn and remember together with you.
• It is sad that the people dearest to us pass away. We offer our sincere condolences.
• With the departure of __ we have lost a lot. We will miss her smile. Please accept our words of sympathy.
• We offer your entire family our sincere condolences for your irreparable loss. May God rest his soul.
• Our deepest condolences on the unexpected death of ___. We pray and mourn.
• Everyone who knew __ is now grieving. It's unbearably sad to lose loved ones in such a time. early age. We will always remember him.
• It doesn’t matter how long a person has lived, what matters is how much good he brought into this world. May God reward him for his good deeds.
• We mourn with you this irreparable loss. We believe that such a bright person will definitely go to Heaven.
• Only with the departure of __ we felt how great her love was. She will always live in our fond memories.
• We empathize with you. There is pain for which there is no cure. We believe that the Lord will not abandon you in such a difficult moment.

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A man has a grief. A man has lost a loved one. What should I tell him?

Hold on!

The most frequent words, which always come to mind first -

• Be strong!
• Hold on!
• Take heart!
• My condolences!
• Any help?
• Oh, what a horror... Well, hold on.

What else can I say? There is nothing to console us, we will not return the loss. Hold on, friend! It’s also not clear what to do next - either support this topic (what if the person is even more painful from continuing the conversation), or change it to neutral...

These words are not spoken out of indifference. Only for the person who has lost life has stopped and time has stopped, but for the rest - life goes on, but how could it be otherwise? It’s scary to hear about our grief, but life goes on as usual. But sometimes you want to ask again - what to hold on to? Even faith in God is difficult to hold on to, because along with loss comes the desperate “Lord, Lord, why did you leave me?”

We should be happy!

Second group valuable advice it’s much worse for the mourner than all these endless “hold on!”

• “You should be glad that you had such a person and such love in your life!”
• “Do you know how many infertile women would dream of being a mother for at least 5 years!”
• “Yes, he finally got over it! How he suffered here and that’s it – he doesn’t suffer anymore!”

I can't be happy. This will be confirmed by anyone who buried a beloved 90-year-old grandmother, for example. Mother Adriana (Malysheva) passed away at 90. She was on the verge of death more than once, all Last year she was seriously and painfully ill. She asked the Lord more than once to take her away as soon as possible. All her friends didn't see her that often - a couple of times a year. best case scenario. Most had only known her for a couple of years. When she left, despite all this, we were orphaned...

Death is not something to be happy about at all.

Death is the most terrible and evil evil.

And Christ defeated it, but for now we can only believe in this victory, while we, as a rule, do not see it.

By the way, Christ did not call to rejoice in death - he cried when he heard about the death of Lazarus and resurrected the son of the widow of Nain.

And “death is gain,” the Apostle Paul said to himself, and not about others, “for ME life is Christ, and death is gain.”

You are strong!

• How he holds up!
• How strong she is!
• You are strong, you endure everything so courageously...

If a person who has experienced a loss does not cry, does not groan or be killed at a funeral, but is calm and smiles, he is not strong. He is still in the most severe phase of stress. When he starts crying and screaming, it means that the first stage of stress is passing, and he feels a little better.

There is such an accurate description in Sokolov-Mitrich’s report about the relatives of the Kursk crew:

“Several young sailors and three people who looked like relatives were traveling with us. Two women and one man. Only one circumstance cast doubt on their involvement in the tragedy: they were smiling. And when we had to push the broken bus, the women even laughed and rejoiced, like collective farmers in Soviet films returning from the battle for the harvest. “Are you from the committee of soldiers’ mothers?” - I asked. “No, we are relatives.”

That evening I met military psychologists from the St. Petersburg military medical academy. Professor Vyacheslav Shamrey, who worked with the relatives of those killed at Komsomolets, told me that this sincere smile on the face of a grief-stricken person is called “unconscious psychological protection" On the plane on which the relatives flew to Murmansk, there was an uncle who, upon entering the cabin, rejoiced like a child: “Well, at least I’ll fly on the plane. Otherwise I’ve been sitting all my life in my Serpukhov district, I don’t see the white light!” This means that the uncle was very bad.

“We’re going to Sasha Ruzlev... Senior midshipman... 24 years old, second compartment,” after the word “compartment,” the women began to sob. “And this is his father, he lives here, he’s also a submariner, he’s been sailing all his life.” The name of? Vladimir Nikolayevich. Just don’t ask him anything, please.”

Are there those who hold on well and do not plunge into this black and white world of grief? Don't know. But if a person “holds on,” it means that, most likely, he needs and will continue to need spiritual and psychological support for a long time. The worst may be ahead.

Orthodox arguments

• Thank God you now have a guardian angel in heaven!
• Your daughter is now an angel, hurray, she’s in the Kingdom of Heaven!
• Your wife is now closer to you than ever!

I remember a colleague was at the funeral of a friend’s daughter. A non-church colleague was horrified by the godmother of that little girl who was burned out from leukemia: “Can you imagine, she said in such a plastic, harsh voice - rejoice, your Masha is now an angel! What a beautiful day! She is with God in the Kingdom of Heaven! This is your best day!”

The thing here is that we, believers, really see that it is not “when” that matters, but “how”. We believe (and this is the only way we live) that sinless children and well-living adults will not lose mercy from the Lord. That it is scary to die without God, but with God nothing is scary. But this is our, in a sense, theoretical knowledge. A person experiencing a loss can himself tell a lot of things that are theologically correct and comforting, if necessary. “Closer than ever” – you don’t feel it, especially at first. Therefore, here I would like to say, “Can everything be as usual, please?”

In the months that have passed since my husband’s death, by the way, I have not heard these “Orthodox consolations” from a single priest. On the contrary, all the fathers told me how difficult it was, how difficult it was. How they thought they knew something about death, but it turned out that they knew little. That the world has become black and white. What sorrow. I didn’t hear a single “finally your personal angel has appeared.”

Only a person who has gone through grief can probably say about this. I was told how Mother Natalia Nikolaevna Sokolova, who buried two of her most beautiful sons within a year - Archpriest Theodore and Bishop Sergius, said: “I gave birth to children for the Kingdom of Heaven. There are two already there.” But only she herself could say that.

Time cures?

Probably, over time, this wound with meat throughout the soul will heal a little. I don't know that yet. But in the first days after the tragedy, everyone is nearby, everyone is trying to help and sympathize. But then - everyone goes on with their own lives - how could it be otherwise? And somehow it seems that the most acute period of grief has already passed. No. The first weeks are not the most difficult. As I was told a wise man Having experienced a loss, after forty days you only little by little understand what place the departed person occupied in your life and soul. After a month, it stops seeming like you’ll wake up and everything will be as before. That this is just a business trip. You realize that you won’t come back here, that you won’t be here anymore.

It is at this time that you need support, presence, attention, work. And just someone who will listen to you.

There is no way to console. You can console a person, but only if you return his loss and resurrect the deceased. And the Lord can still comfort you.

What can I say?

In fact, it is not so important what you say to a person. What matters is whether you have experience of suffering or not.

Here's the thing. There are two psychological concepts: sympathy and empathy.

Sympathy- We sympathize with the person, but we ourselves have never been in such a situation. And we, in fact, cannot say “I understand you” here. Because we don't understand. We understand that it is bad and scary, but we do not know the depth of this hell in which a person is now. And not every experience of loss is suitable here. If we buried our beloved 95-year-old uncle, this does not give us the right to say to the mother who buried her son: “I understand you.” If we do not have such experience, then your words will most likely not have any meaning for a person. Even if he listens to you out of politeness, the thought will be in the background: “But everything is fine with you, why do you say that you understand me?”

And here empathy- this is when you have compassion for a person and KNOW what he is going through. A mother who has buried a child experiences empathy and compassion, supported by experience, for another mother who has buried a child. Here every word can be at least somehow perceived and heard. And most importantly, here is a living person who also experienced this. Who feels bad, just like me.

Therefore, it is very important to arrange for a person to meet with those who can show empathy towards him. Not an intentional meeting: “But Aunt Masha, she also lost a child!” Unobtrusively. Carefully tell them that you can go to such and such a person or that such a person is ready to come and talk. There are many forums online to support people experiencing loss. On the RuNet there is less, on the English-language Internet there is more - those who have experienced or are experiencing gather there. Being close to them will not ease the pain of loss, but it will support them.

Help good priest, who has experience of loss or simply a lot of life experience. You will most likely also need the help of a psychologist.

Pray a lot for the deceased and for loved ones. Pray yourself and serve magpies in churches. You can also invite the person himself to travel to churches together to serve magpies around him and pray around him and read the psalter.

If you knew the deceased, remember him together. Remember what you said, what you did, where you went, what you discussed... Actually, that’s what wakes are for—to remember a person, to talk about him. “Do you remember, one day we met at a bus stop, and you had just returned from your honeymoon”….

Listen a lot, calmly and for a long time. Not comforting. Without encouraging, without asking to rejoice. He will cry, he will blame himself, he will retell the same little things a million times. Listen. Just help with the housework, with the children, with chores. Talk about everyday topics. Be near.

P.P.S. If you have experience of how grief and loss are experienced, we will add your advice, stories and help others at least a little.

We intuitively and subconsciously understand how to behave in joyful, easy life situations and festive events. But there are events of a tragic nature - the death of a loved one, for example. Many are lost, faced with their unpreparedness for loss; for most, such events are beyond acceptance and awareness.

People experiencing loss are easily vulnerable, acutely aware of insincerity and pretense, their feelings are overwhelmed with pain, they need help to relieve it, accept it, come to terms with it, but in no case add to the pain with an accidentally thrown tactless word or incorrect phrase.

You need to be able to show increased tact and correctness, sensitivity and condescension. It is better to remain silent, showing delicate understanding, than to cause additional pain, hurt disturbed feelings, or touch nerves overloaded with emotions.

We will try to help you understand how to behave in a situation where the person next to you has suffered grief - the loss of a loved one, how to properly sympathize and choose the right words so that the person feels your support and sincere sympathy.

It is necessary to take into account the existing differences in condolences.

The form of expressing condolences for the loss will vary:

• Grandparents, relatives;
• mother or father;
• brother or sister;
• son or daughter - child;
• husband or wife;
• boyfriend or girlfriend;
• colleagues, employee.

Because the depth of experience varies.

Also, the expression of condolences depends on the severity of the grieving person’s feelings about what happened:

• Imminent death due to old age;
• imminent death due to serious illness;
• premature, sudden death;
• tragic death, accident.

But there is a main, general condition, independent of the cause of death - genuine sincerity in the expression of your grief.

The condolence itself should be short in form, but deep in content. Therefore, you need to find the most sincere words that accurately convey the depth of your sympathy and your willingness to provide support.

In this article we will provide samples and examples of various forms of expressing condolences and help you choose mournful words. You will need: sincerity; patience; attention to the person; sympathy;
Tip 1

Form and method of presentation

Condolences will have distinctive features in form and method of presentation, depending on their purpose.

Purpose:

1. Personal individual condolences to family and friends.
2. Official individual or collective.
3. Obituary in the newspaper.
4. Farewell mourning words at the funeral.
5. Funeral words at the wake: for 9 days, on the anniversary.

Serving method:

The timeliness factor is important, so the postal delivery method should only be used to send a telegram. Of course, the fastest way to offer your condolences is to use modern communication tools: email, Skype, Viber..., but they are suitable for confident Internet users, and these should be not only senders, but also recipients.

Using SMS to show sympathy and empathy is only acceptable if there are no other opportunities for contact with a person, or if the status of your relationship is distant acquaintance or formal friendly relations.

Submission form:

In writing:

• Telegram;
• email;
• e-card;
• obituary - a mourning note in a newspaper.

In oral form:

• In a telephone conversation;
• in person.

In prose: Suitable for written and oral expression of grief.
In verse: Suitable for written expressions of grief.
Tip 2

Important points

All verbal condolences should be short in form.

• It is more delicate to express official condolences in writing. For this, a heartfelt verse is more suitable, to which you can choose a photo of the deceased, corresponding electronic pictures and postcards.
• Personal individual condolences must be exclusive and can be expressed either verbally or in writing.
• For the dearest and closest people, it is important to express or write sorrowful condolences in your own sincere words, not formal, which means not stereotyped.
• Since poems are rarely exclusive, exclusively yours, so listen to your heart, and it will tell you words of consolation and support.
• Not only words of condolences should be sincere, but also an offer of any help that is within your power: financial, organizational.

Be sure to mention the distinctive personal virtues and character traits of the deceased person that you would like to preserve in memory forever as an example: wisdom, kindness, responsiveness, optimism, love of life, hard work, honesty...

This will be the individual part of the condolence, the main part of which can be formulated according to the approximate model proposed in our article.
Tip 3

Universal mournful texts

1. “May the earth rest in peace” is a traditional ritual phrase that is said after a burial has taken place; it can be used as a condolence at a funeral service; it is suitable even for atheists.
2. “We all mourn your irreparable loss.”
3. “The pain of loss cannot be expressed in words.”
4. “I sincerely condole and sympathize with your grief.”
5. “Please accept my deepest condolences on the death of a dear person.”
6. “We will keep in our hearts the bright memory of the deceased wonderful man.”

Help can be offered in the following words:

• “We are ready to share the severity of your grief, be by your side and provide the necessary assistance to you and your family.”
• “Surely, you will need to resolve many issues. You can count on us, accept our help."

Tip 4

On the death of mother, grandmother

1. “The death of the closest person - mother - is an irreparable grief.”
2. “The bright memory of her will forever be in our hearts.”
3. “How much we didn’t have time to tell her during her lifetime!”
4. “We sincerely mourn and sympathize with you in this bitter moment.”
5. “Hold on! In memory of her. She wouldn't want to see you in despair."

Tip 5

On the death of a husband, father, grandfather

• “I offer my sincere condolences and express my deep sympathy in connection with the death of a loved one who was a reliable support for you and your family.”
• “In memory of this strong man, you must show fortitude and wisdom to survive this grief and continue what he did not finish.”
• “We will carry the bright and kind memory of him throughout our lives.”

Tip 6

On the death of a sister, brother, friend, loved one

1. “It is painful to realize the loss of a loved one, but it is even more difficult to come to terms with the departure of young people who have not known life. Everlasting memory!"
2. “Allow me to express my most sincere condolences on the occasion of this severe, irreparable loss!”
3. “Now you will have to become a support for your parents! Remember this and hang in there!”
4. “God help you survive and endure the pain of this loss!”
5. “For the sake of your children, their peace and well-being, you need to cope with this grief, find the strength to live and learn to look into the future.”
6. “Death does not take away love, your love is immortal!”
7. “Happy memory to a wonderful man!”
8. “He will forever remain in our hearts!”

Tip 7

To the death of a believer

The text of condolences may contain the same mournful words as for a secular person, but an Orthodox Christian should add:

• Ritual phrase:

“The Kingdom of Heaven and Eternal Peace!”
"God is merciful!"

• Prayer phrase:

“O Lord, rest his soul, forgive all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant the Kingdom of Heaven!” Conclusion

Conclusion

« Life of the dead continues in the memory of the living" - these words belong to to the ancient sage Cicero. And while we are alive, our departed loved ones live in our hearts!