Where to meet a girl for a serious relationship? Where can adults meet? How people are currently getting to know each other

1. What are you doing tonight after our date?
2. Do you think I like you more than you like me?
3. Hi, can I talk to you? And then all sorts of girls pester, try to get acquainted ...
4. Hello, can you tell me how to cook dumplings?
5. You have a very happy nose!
6. Can you tell me the recipe for birch jam?
7. Hey! Today is a great day, can I cheer you up?
8. Hey! Are you also on VK? And I. Do you play the flute? Me neither. See how alike we are!
9. Do you meet nice young people? Here I am!
10. You have beautiful eyes, what color are they?
11. And I bet you can’t guess what your name is?
12. You probably won't give me a chance to meet you ... But send me a smile if I'm wrong!
13. I am clearly not the first person who wants to meet you. But I am the best! Do you want me to prove it?
14. Hey! I sell happiness! Do you want me to give it to you for free?
15. Can you tell me where to spend your salary?
16. I'm tired of waiting for you to take the first step. Hey!
17. You have amazing eyes, I just can't tear myself away from them.
18. Now I look at you and understand that we definitely need to get acquainted!
19. Tell me, how many did you kick off today? I'm four. Well, the impudent girls!
20. I looked at your photos and forgot to meet you. Hey!
21. Do you believe in love at forty-eighth sight? And then I look at your photos for so long that I fall in love!
22. How did you know that I was online?
23. Let's change? You give me two hundred grams of sadness, and I give you a kilogram of my joy?
24. Maybe we'll talk already or will we like each other like that?
25. Remember me? You dreamed about me!
26. Hi, I just read an interesting story. The guy met the girl, and they lived happily ever after! By the way, do you know how he met her? Said: "Hi, I just read an interesting story!"
27. You know, before I met you, I was sure that I was gay!
28. How about flirting?
29. Hey! I want to interview you. Tell me, what is it like to be the most beautiful girl?
30. Can you help me learn to talk to girls?
31. Hi, I'm taking a population census and I want to start with you!
32. Hello, could you please change my free time to communicate with you?
33. You are very wrong if you think that I want to meet you. I want to ask you out on a date!
34. So two damn attractive people met. Hey!
35. No, well, if you keep silent all the time, no one will get to know you. I will help, hello!
36. You know, I didn't have a very pleasant day. I was upset, but then I saw your avatar.
37. Can you forgive yourself if you don't answer me?
38. Have young people never crawled at your feet? And at the hands ?!
39. And if I were such a beautiful girl like you, I would get to know myself!
40. Who are you dating? Come with me!
41. Hey! I'm writing a book about what girls want. Can you tell?
42. A gorgeous girl like you should have a pretty font!
43. Hey! I got lost in life and barely found you, will you lead me out of the dull world of loneliness?
44. Can I flirt with you?
45. You know, there are things that are easy to imagine together - black and white, day and night, butter and porridge, you and me ...
46. Do you want to talk to a person who really liked you?
47. What questions do you think guys get slapped for?
48. You have a boyfriend? Or maybe you need a better one?
49. Are you in love with your city?
50. I love dogs very much. Can you tell me which breed is better to start?
51. Are you a professional stylist?
52. You are beautiful! Can we switch to "you"?
53. You spend a lot of time online, can we go to unwind?
54. You're so beautiful! Or do you know a professional photographer?
55. Imagine, I wrote you a huge text, and then they turned off the light. So just hello!
56. Wow, I like this band too! What's your favorite song?
57. You have a very cute face!
58. You have such beautiful eyes! Especially the left one!
59. Gorgeous legs! And the right one is doubly gorgeous!
60. I love your mouth ☺
61. You know, you have such lovely breasts! And there are also two of them!
62. Nice dress! You know, the purse doesn't fit very well.
63. Heard the phrase that with whom you will lead, from that you will gain? So, I like you, and I decided that I would dial from you!
64. It was difficult, but I was able to write to you! Will you reward with an answer?
65. Have you ever ridden an escalator? Do you want to pump it?
66. I think I have amnesia, otherwise I would have written to you!
67. Don't you happen to have a red thread? We could make friends with her.
68. Your beauty struck me so much that I forgot what I wanted to tell you.
69. Have you ever been offered a hand and a heart? I am a surgeon, I have a lot of them!
70. Sorry, can I tweak your plans for the evening?
71. Didn't you just accidentally click "I like" on my photo? No? It's a pity…
72. I wonder if your inner world matches your photos?
73. It must be bad to be your friend, because you have overshadowed everyone with your beauty!
74. I miss two things in life - you and hair.
75. When I see you, I understand how good it is that I am single!
76. You know, your hair matches the color of my pillow perfectly.
77. Does it hurt to fall from heaven?
78. Girl, does your mother need a son-in-law?
79. We bet ten thousand that I will ask you out on a date, and you refuse?
80. Marry me!
81. Urgently, call an ambulance, I was shot by an arrow of love ...
82. Give me your sadness? I need it for experiments.
83. Hey! Could you wake me up with a call tomorrow? I'm afraid to oversleep.
84. Did you come from a fairy tale?
85. Do you know what love at first sight is? If not, I'll write again!
86. Are you Alice, my contact?
87. Girl, you are probably tired of asking about your son-in-law?
88. I bought borjomi and salami, come and eat!
89. And here I am collecting a harem. Only you are missing.
90. When will you take your first step! I'm tired of waiting and doing it myself! Let's get acquainted!
91. I definitely saw you somewhere, can you remind me where?
92. Are you beautiful on the Internet, show yourself in life?
93. Hey! Amazing places in your photos. Where is it?
94. You wrote that you love "...." group. Do you have their songs on cassettes?
95. Have you ever seen a really interesting girl?
96. You have a very familiar face! You weren't at the club yesterday?
97. Do you know the saying "listen to a woman and do the opposite"? So, I don't want you to answer me!
98. I have a great vacancy! Man / Girl to go to the movies with me. Would you like to try?
99. Hi. It's such a good day today. I want to cheer someone up. Maybe you?
100. Today I saw you in a dream, but you only managed to say your first and last name. And so I found you!
101. You have such beautiful eyes. I have been looking only at them for a long time, but I do not dare to write.

MOSCOW, July 6 - RIA Novosti. Most Russians found their soul mate through friends and acquaintances, many get to know their future spouses at work, via the Internet or resort to matchmaking, according to the results of the HeadHunter survey, commissioned by RIA Novosti. Experts have assessed which particular acquaintances are more likely to end with a wedding.

Since 2008, the Day of Family, Love and Fidelity has been celebrated in Russia on July 8. The idea of ​​the holiday is based on the ancient legend of Saints Peter and Fevronia of Murom, taken as a model for marital relations. This day is intended to draw attention to the Russian family as the custodian of spiritual and moral values. Every year, the organizing committee of the holiday, which is headed by the wife of the Prime Minister of the Russian Federation Svetlana Medvedeva, on this day presents the best families in Russia with a public award -.

A HeadHunter poll showed that 27% of married Russians found their soul mate with the help of acquaintances. The next line in popularity among dating sites was shared by work and study (19% and 18%, respectively). In other cases, the respondents noted that they met their future spouse on the street or in a nightclub, found it on the Internet or with the help of marriage agencies and matchmakers.

On the job

According to the survey, office romances happened in the life of every fourth Russian. This was admitted by 27% of the respondents. Another 19% of respondents did not have such experience, but they would not refuse the opportunity to start a relationship with a colleague. 53% of Russians prefer not to mix work and personal life.

As a rule, an office romance does not last long, only 39% of survey participants have it dragged on for a year or more. For 46% of the respondents, the romance at work lasted from a month to six months, another 15% - a little more than six months.

The overwhelming majority of office romances are doomed to failure, the statistics draws a disappointing conclusion: 63% of the Russians surveyed did not have a romance. Only 15% of the respondents had an office romance developed into a family relationship. However, one should not despair, all the same statistics say that 8% of Russians have a civil marriage, and another 15% of those surveyed continue to meet. It is possible that the office romances of these couples will develop into strong married couples in the future.

It is noteworthy that 11% of married respondents do not exclude the possibility of having a love affair with one of their colleagues.

Office romance with a sequel

According to psychotherapist Konstantin Olkhovoy, office romances are divided into two categories: the first end in a long and stable relationship, the second are short-term.

"It is better to avoid short-term office romances. When such a relationship breaks up, in addition to heart wounds, ex-partners also get a whole bunch of work-related problems," the expert says.

Doctor-sexologist, psychotherapist, full member of the Russian Scientific Sexological Society Yevgeny Kulgavchuk is sure that the success of an office romance depends on the mood with which it arises. If a couple initially starts a relationship only for the purpose of entertainment, in order to escape from workdays, the future in the form of creating a family for such a union is unlikely.

"In this case, one animator will be replaced by another. If people feel united, they are able to solve problems together, they are like-minded, then such a relationship can have a good future. If people are able to switch from work to rest, then working together improves relationship, because people always have something to talk about, and there is a good feeling of a real team, "he is sure.

Olkhovoy noted that often a gap between colleagues leads to the dismissal of one of the partners. “People who met at work, one way or another, will intersect with each other after parting. someone for short-term, then this relationship will end tragically. Someone will have to quit, "Olkhovoy is sure.

Meanwhile, the president of HeadHunter, Yuri Virovets, is confident that employers should not interfere with the personal relationships of their employees.

"People should not be prohibited from falling in love with their colleagues. You should not create such rules within the company, because they will not work anyway. And if the relationship began to get in the way of business, then it would be right if the leader invites the couple for a conversation, and together they try to find a solution." - he stressed.

Virovets also believes that serious office affairs, on the contrary, may even benefit the company. "Romantic relationships between colleagues give rise to successful business projects, make people not sit still and strive for more, even when much has already been achieved," he said.

A survey by HeadHunter showed that 11% of Russians had an affair on the Internet.

The Internet is convenient in communication, as it optimizes the time, but finding true love on the Internet is not easy, Kulgavchuk said.

"Of course, there are many people who are in the mood for entertainment. The wealth of choice sometimes plays a cruel joke. After all, some immerse themselves in the process, forgetting about the result. Nevertheless, I recommend that my patients almost always use this method, but as an additional one," he said ...

At the same time, the sexologist emphasized that it is important to observe safety precautions when meeting on the Internet, which helps to avoid disappointment, and not to waste time on hopeless relationships. "If these conditions are met and you understand who you are and who you are looking for, the likelihood of finding your soul mate is not at all illusory," he said.

Olkhova advises to think of online dating sites as a database. "If a person met someone on the site who is interesting to him, and if after a few days the meeting in real life did not take place, then it is not worth continuing this relationship. It must be remembered that many regard such resources as an entertainment service," he says ...

Olkhoi believes that thematic forums and sites are more suitable for dating on the Internet, when people are connected by certain common interests.

Secrets of matchmakers

The services of third parties for finding a soul mate, for example, matchmakers, are still very popular.

Kulgavchuk explained that the matchmaker is a kind of mediator who can adequately assess both sides in order to reduce the percentage of disappointment. However, you should not rely only on her.

“I myself often act in this role when a patient or patient describes her potential soul mate. We assess the potential of a couple, help to get to know each other better“ on the shore. ”Nevertheless, a person must still actively seek his own destiny. help, but do not expect that the matchmaker, like a store, will give you the right product, "- said the sexologist.

Matchmaker Olga Belova noted that only those people who are inclined to create a family, and not to light flirting, turn to her.

“Who is too lazy to look for a future spouse - he sits on the Internet, who is desperate to find a second half - also sits on the Internet, because he no longer hopes for anything. who think who will be the father or mother of his child. These are people who want to understand who they will live with for the rest of their lives, "she explained.

Belova noted that most often the services of matchmakers are resorted to by those people who are interested in the specific characteristics of the future spouse: age, education, field of activity. They are also interested in who the parents of the alleged second half are.

According to Belova, it is highly likely that real feelings will arise between the people whom the matchmaker introduced.

"I introduce people to each other, and how they will communicate further, they will tell me later. The conditions are as close to natural as possible. The meeting takes place in real life, where it is convenient and comfortable for them, not under the control of third parties. More than a third of my couples join into marriage. Two-thirds continue to meet with different people until they find their own, "she said.

Another matchmaker from one of the oldest marriage agencies in Moscow told the agency that she is approached by rational people who do not want to waste their emotions looking for a soul mate. The success of the selection of candidates depends on how much people are ready to meet with potential spouses and how they have adequate requests.

"A person should be open, should be ready to share information and assess himself sensibly. It should be noted that mainly rational people come to us. They have taken place in life and no longer want or have no opportunity to waste time on unsuccessful relationships," she said ...

In order to find new friends and expand the circle of acquaintances, the main thing is to have a desire. After all, many are very closed and are afraid to let new people into their world. Someone is simply lazy to communicate and does not budge. Someone is panicky afraid to come up and get to know each other.

If you are reading this article, then you are full of desire. Below you will learn how to meet new people and make friends. You will also find out the places where you can do it.

Rules for communicating with new acquaintances

First, understand that there is no reason to be shy. Communication is a need that nature has endowed us with. Man is a social creation. Be confident in yourself and you will definitely be able to make new friends.

If you met a person, understand that this is not enough, you need to interest and win over the interlocutor:

The main rule of a new acquaintance is a smile and friendliness.
A new acquaintance is unlikely to want to be friends with a person who is unhappy with something, dull or angry.

Ask the other person questions and listen carefully to the answers. Keep the conversation going with your new friend.
In this way, you show your interest and intention to be friends.

Tell about yourself, your hobbies and preferences, let your new friend get to know you better.
General classic themes are suitable for this. Such as: movies, sports, books, childhood stories, profession and others.

Invite a new friend to meetings and walks.
How to meet new people? Take the first step towards acquaintance. It may seem like an obsession, but you must "draw" a new acquaintance into a friendship. Of course, you need to adequately assess the acquaintance and if you are unambiguously constantly refused, you should look for a new friend.

If your new acquaintance is distant from you, start conversations through messages or phone calls.
Thanks to social networks, it's actually easier to make friends. Free messages filled with emoticons. The ability to send video, audio or photos. This gives you a huge chance to make friends with new people.
Be sure to add your new real acquaintance on social networks as a friend. Rate the photos, leave interesting comments.
Try starting your conversation with your new friend by discussing popular videos on the Internet.

Be polite and congratulate your friend on the holidays.

Remember the current events in the life of a new friend and be interested in their development.
It is not easy to become true friends, but when you find your person, acquaintance will go “like clockwork”.

Where to meet new people

There are a lot of opportunities for dating. If you are not ready to come up and speak first on the street, then choose places where interaction will become mandatory.

1. You can find new friends in various training courses. Practice shows that in unfamiliar circumstances, people are forced to start communication, and get to know each other on the basis of common difficulties.
These can be: Automotive courses, Cooking courses, Seminars and trainings in psychology or Master - classes of professionals, Linguistic courses and others.

2. Currently, various collective games and quests are very popular, such as Mafia, games in Antikafe and the like.
Participation in such games is a lot of fun and involves the interaction of meeting new people.

3. Use the available opportunities.
Start conversations with work colleagues or classmates, because you are likely to be surrounded by a lot of people. Attend corporate or joint group trips.
If, suddenly, you find yourself in a hospital, get acquainted with your roommates.
If you are on the beach, take part in beach activities. Usually such companies are everywhere, and they will gladly accept you into their ranks.

4. Go on weekend hikes.
In almost every city there are active people who are fond of weekend hiking trips. Join a similar group and you will meet new interesting people there.
The main thing is to remember about personal safety, and when joining such groups, read reviews on the Internet, ask your friends. Take care of yourself, otherwise you risk falling into the hands of scammers.

5. Go in for sports
When choosing a sport, be guided by your own skills and interests. It is most effective to choose a sport where people interact with each other. It can be valleyball on the street near the house, or football, basketball, hockey, chess and the like.

6. Organize your own interest group on the social network and promote it.
Organize a group and invite everyone who suits you or like to it. Create interesting topics in the group. Maintain communication. After a while, you can make an appointment with the group members and switch to more friendly communication.

8. Tourism
Active and courageous people manage to make new friends on tourist trips. It will be easier to do this if you are eating with a group of people from the same travel company. This will make it easier for you to start a conversation. It will be possible to discuss expensively, perhaps difficulties with resettlement. You can meet for lunch.

9. Communication with parents of children
Be more active in meetings at school, speak up, ask questions. Offer help to the parent committee. Perhaps your child is still a toddler, then communicate with parents on the playground.

10. Visit exhibitions, museums, reading clubs
In such places, you will meet many like-minded people. Plus, people often go there alone and are ready to discuss the exhibits.

11. If you are a creative person
The doors of the Houses of Culture of your city are always open for creative individuals. Various theatrical circles, vocal lessons, dancing, etc. will diversify your life and give you the opportunity to find new friends.

12. Join a fan club or volunteer organization

Weird places to meet

Below is a list of places that I find strange and ineffective for meeting new people.

1. On the street
Agree, you will be alerted by a person who, for no apparent reason, approached you with a smile and offered to meet you. The question arises in my head: “Who are you, man? Oriflame, Avon or Sect? "
I believe that this way you can run into an annoying representative of a dubious organization or even a swindler. One can regret such a new acquaintance.

2. Acquaintance on the train, in public transport
In fact, if you've been eating with a fellow traveler for a week, it's hard not to make an acquaintance. Often, on trains, people learn interesting stories and even have novels. Such new acquaintances are quite an adventurous thing.
Again, I urge you to be vigilant, remember that scammers are often rubbed into trust in order to get their own profit.

3. Theater, cinema, disco bars, karaoke
These are the places where people usually come with friends already. They have their own atmosphere and mood, rarely when people pay attention to singles at all. Of course, it is possible that with the general fun you will be able to make new friends.

4. Church and similar religious temples
It would be strange for me to start a conversation in church, I came there with very personal pain or joy, and here is a new friend. I would think he is a madman or a religious fanatic.

Remember, in order to meet new people, be open in communication. Agree to invitations from friends and keep the conversation going and take the initiative. Spending time together will help you become true friends.

It is also logical to look for a life partner where he himself goes in search of a girlfriend. Therefore, we instructed the writer Oleg Borichev to investigate where and how gentlemen of different age groups meet their potential ladies. And journalist Anna Rodina supplemented his large-scale work by summarizing our female experience.

Where to meet in 20+

- Listen, I don't understand what you want from me at all! - Vanya clings the mushroom to the fork from the fifth time; it comes out much faster to cling to the hair-eyed youths.

- Nothing outrageous! How do you meet girls? Where? Why is it so?

- It's all not important. I'm curious - I'm taking a step. On the street, in a bar, at a party, at a corporate party - no difference. He came up, spoke, yes - yes, no - no, that's it.

Vanya is tall, handsome, usually talkative. He graduated from theatrical, played cameo roles in a dozen TV series. He is 23. At the moment he is single and claims that he is getting to know each other not only for the sake of sex. Trying to start a conversation about ways to find a couple from his age group seems logical (for a while). In our twenties, the entire vast ancient world lies at our feet as an obedient dog. The future seems extremely bright, parents are hopeless retrogrades, and love is eternal.... Even the poll results do not argue with the latter. If you believe the research holding "Romir", it is at the age of 23-25 ​​that almost all respondents agree when choosing the age for starting a family (and they did 10 years ago).

The main thing that surprises Ivan and his peers is, of course, not explainable frivolous attitude to the subject of conversation in general, but a wary perception of the Internet as a way of acquaintance. “I’m not that desperate”, “Too much rejection rate” and even just “P-f-f-f-f-f”. Various measurements show from 50 to 65% of the penetration of the global network into the life of Russians. That is, every second is already connected, but the level of male distrust to the Internet in matters of arranging life, oddly enough, is the same.

We think. In 1897, an all-Russian population census was carried out, and it turned out that girls mostly go down the aisle at 21 years old. A hundred years later, in the dashing nineties, they jumped out to get married even earlier - at the age of 18-19. It is believed that social upheavals are to blame, forcing them to seek stability by any means.

Modern research shows that shocks seem to be a thing of the past. Many girls do not think about marriage until the age of 25-27 (then the question: “Well, why are you still not married?” - still a little annoying). In the meantime - bars, parties, the Internet. Youth wants variety, and where to look for it, if not on a dating site or, for example, in a special mobile application, right?

Actually. The Internet as a hunting ground interests windy twenty-year-olds least of all. The irony is that the girls turned out to be not so windy. Serve them serious relationships or good friends, not this dancing dinner of yours. “We have 16.5 million registered users, about 37% of them are women,” says Maxim Khramov, director of the dating site LovePlanet. - So young girls in the column "Purpose of acquaintance" most often indicate friendship and communication. " “I like the Russian Tinder, there are many beauties here,” says 23-year-old Italian Mario. "But most of them are determined to find a permanent partner."

"Tinder", of course, is not at all for that, and even the young ladies complain that everything happens too slowly in dating applications: men often do not go further than likes, it takes a long time to wait for an invitation to a date, and when you are twenty you do not want to wait. “He appreciated my photo - and that was the end of the conversation, - says Katya, she is 22. - I think it's easier to go to a bar and meet someone there.... In any case, it will be immediately clear whether a person likes it or not. "

Where to meet at 30+

- It's just that at some point you have to understand that all this is really serious. Need time. And strength. And the organization of the process. I'm not saying that you need to put dates in your Outlook calendar. Although-ah ... - Seva looks thoughtfully out the window, where it is dark and scary, like in the soul of a man who first entered a dating site in 2016.

- That is, all the same to drive?

- Well no. Take this seriously. Either you want to die alone or you don't. If not, work. Not at all, but over that. Well, in general, too ...

Seve is thirty. The easiest way to describe it with established cliches: "successful manager", "well-groomed beard", "kreakl". Seva is very angry at his ex-wife for treason and a little angry at the whole world, because "why the hell is it wrong." He lived according to a plan roughly outlined back in graduation classes, and the world and the former dared to somewhat correct the established picture of a folding life.

The time of the collapse of youthful dreams of the simplicity, convenience and directness of the chosen road comes in the end for almost any seva. It is assumed that a thirty-year-old man is an adult of our species, an accomplished person, a stable social construct. Oh, if only. The total infantilization of male homo sapiens led to the fact that by the time we are thirty, we often just understand what approximately we need from a partner... And sometimes it comes as a surprise. And the way of acquaintance? He suddenly turns out to be not just unimportant, but stupidly uninteresting - yes, anyone, damn it. "The devil knows what she is good at, but I do not regret that I got married." "Yes, I immediately realized that no, but I ran away from the cinema ..." "Listen, I'm just tired, and with her ... well, it just happened."

We think. You must admit that by thirty there is neither time nor, frankly, energy for bars and round-the-clock parties. But most of the girls already have a permanent job. And here on it you can meet the man of your dreams. And blush, lightly touching his sleeves during the next coffee break.

Actually. A thirty-year-old young lady, most likely, will not go to a bar just to dance. And here a woman can very much get out to a thematic institution... “From about 29 years old, the fairer sex most often indicate marriage as the goal of dating,” says Maxim Khramov, director of the website LovePlanet. "And it is worth noting, by the way, that regardless of age, sex as the main motive is the least popular among women." Girls, among other things, need a like-minded person. Not necessarily immediately a spouse, but one with whom you can look in the same direction.

“I like football, so I go to sports bars when there are interesting matches,” says 30-year-old Marina. - At first, guys, of course, assume that I just love to watch handsome men run across the field. But then it turns out that I really understand football, and there are a lot of topics for conversation. " “I often met at lectures,” 37-year-old Selena shares her experience. And we didn't even take into account the magic of intellectual fluids. It turns out that in a lecture on modern architecture or a design workshop, you can easily meet someone cute with a suitable IQ.

“It's easier to get acquainted on the Internet,” 30-year-old Masha unexpectedly enters, “you can talk a little longer and understand whether you are crazy or not. A simple example: a friend met a man in "real life" - interesting, handsome. And then she found him on VKontakte - with the nickname Pussy Style. The image, as you understand, has greatly faded. " Well but what about office romances? “I heard that miracles happen, - says Olya, she is 33. - But, for example, my colleagues. One is tipsy every evening, the second throws mud at the first opportunity, the third is not able to make a single independent decision. Would I like to spin with one of them? The answer is obvious. "

Where to meet at 35+

- Seriously? Don't you have Tinder? - Kostya drops a dumpling from a spoon and looks at me literally with his mouth open.

Kostya is almost forty, he is a doctor in not the very last paid clinic. And if he has a strict professional taboo on courting patients, then otherwise he is one of the most popular with the opposite sex of my acquaintances. Which, however, does not bring him joy. By the end of the fourth decade, the life of many of us becomes like an apartment after an apocalyptic party: everything is broken around, dreams and former partners are scattered in the corners, and the only thing you really want is to lie down on the sofa and die quickly. But. The sexual instinct is invincible. "Oleg, I know that she will leave me in six months, but you understand ..."

Tinder, a popular mobile dating application, seeks to make the journey from a nascent interest to a personal meeting as easy as possible. According to various sources, 12 to 41% of all smartphone users have tried it. Until recently, when I said that I was unfamiliar with Tinder, they looked at me with bewilderment. However, the situation has changed: the application was cleverly won by marriage swindlers and amateurs of easy pickup. But in reality, the way you meet is really not that important. Most of those who were dissatisfied with “Tinder” I interviewed eventually found partners through other channels. How and why? "Oleg, do you really need to decipher this? .."

We think. Grown women are wise and careful. They probably already burned in milk, that is, in their first or even second marriage. So now the ladies will not get to know each other headlong on the Internet, in a drinking establishment or at a resort... The best option is an established group of friends, where during the next gatherings, someone nice and without a ring on a nameless one will suddenly come out from behind the curtain.

Actually. The interviewed women 35+ rejected such a bleak scenario of their personal life arrangement (not categorically - with the proviso "what if ...", but all the same). And the most attractive way of meeting many people called - drum roll! - an accidental meeting while on vacation. When you have already boarded the plane and the wine in the glass has not yet warmed up, and the problems have already been forgotten, then you can start shooting with your eyes. “Two of my friends met the suitors on vacation,” says 42-year-old Tatiana. - Serbia, Italy. Resort romances are written off in vain: there is more time, nothing distracts from each other, and trips to the hypermarket on Saturdays are not looming on the horizon yet. "

Apparently, this is a tendency: women (like men, I suppose), getting older, less and less want to delve into the spreading inner worlds of partners. And they can be understood: around the crisis, the euro, the sanctions - how to deal with all this. Ladies do not welcome complex relationships, give them lightness... “In the third message, the man from the Badoo website complained that he was divorced, missed his daughter a lot and was not happy about anything. Well, why should I know this? " - asks 40-year-old Galina. “Go to the dance,” calls on Yulia, who is also 40. “I’ve been learning to dance the Argentine tango for only six months, and the romantic results are as follows: one unsuccessful romance (it happens), one loyal fan (nice) and one pecking mutual interest (I bet on this horse). A friend attends salsa school and claims that free and relationship-minded men of all ages also respect the energetic Latina. "

While preparing this text, I collected information on several dozen magazine pages. It is impossible to squeeze it down to one article. I thought the whole world had moved to the Web - no. People still meet on the streets, in the movies, at exhibitions and at a party. It seemed to me that the mobile Internet replaced all communication channels - no. According to the Pew Research Center, up to 54% of citizens still expect calls from partners, not messages. It seemed that after thirty-five there was really no life - nonsense, it is just beginning. The world had to change. And he probably changed, but we are still looking for each other and even, surprisingly, love.

There are more opportunities. Difficulties - too. We have no time, we are afraid, we value false misanthropy, we are constantly at work. We hide behind websites, apps and alcohol. We are indistinguishable from the landscape, virtual masks and fictional characters. Only we still want to be together with someone who will understand us, approve and help us get through all this jazz... And by and large, this is the only thought that makes many of us not give up. Even if you have to approach a stranger in a bar. Or write to her. Or, I don't know, like at least.

We admit that the male view of the problem is not optimistic. Women perform more vigorously and more actively. But on the main thing we agree: there is a chance to find that very person, and this is already half the battle.

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Single girls and women dream of arranging their personal lives: finding an interesting man for a relationship. They often have no idea how to make their dreams come true. It seems that getting to know a guy these days is as difficult as finding snowdrops in winter.

All tips will be divided into two parts. The first one will concern preparation for acquaintance, work on oneself. The second is the ways of establishing contact.

What to do to get acquainted?

Before you start actively looking for a guy, you need to learn a few tips that will allow you to get to know each other faster and more efficiently:

1. Analyze your appearance. How good is she? What should be changed in it? The first thing that a man may be interested in is his hair, face, figure. He will not be able to immediately appreciate the rich inner world. Therefore, special attention should be paid to the appearance. Plus, making sure you're irresistible doesn't hurt either.
2. Positive attitude. We will generalize a little by including several components in this concept. You need to get ready for a date. First, you need to stop being shy. Just take the matter responsibly: if you tighten up, nothing sensible will come of it. Secondly, you need to learn how to smile correctly and beautifully. This will attract men. Simple psychology: a smile is a signal to someone else's brain that the girl you meet has good intentions.
3. Communicate more. The more often a girl leaves the house, the higher her chances of dating.

You can, of course, advise you to decide in advance on the ideal of a man and look only for him, but this will be superfluous. There are a lot of stories when a girl was looking for a real "macho", as a result - she married a modest "nerd".

So in order to successfully meet interesting guys, you need to look good and be positive in the first place. There is no need to enter the image of a fatal beauty in revealing outfits. Often the main interest of men is sex, although they value more modest, stylish and intelligent women who are ideal for marriage.

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Finding a new young person can be done in “passive” and “active” ways.

"Passive" way

A very long time ago there was a rule that it is men who take the initiative in dating. This should please any girl. Can I sit at home and wait for my prince? Unfortunately, the knights are not given the exact addresses of the cute lonely strangers.

For a man to notice a woman, she needs:

1. Go outside or go to an interesting place where men are.
2. Smile at young people you like and give other signals of readiness for communication. Exercises in front of a mirror will help in this matter. It is necessary to train your smile, evaluating how natural it turns out.
3. To be alone more often. A friend, especially a beautiful one, will interfere with the search for a boyfriend. But to be alone does not mean to be isolated. For example, headphones and immersion in music reduce the chances of an interesting meeting.

In theory, a young man who sees a pretty girl who "makes eyes" should come up and get to know her. However, not everyone does this. I don’t want to say that men were "crumbling", but modern young people have certain fears. It's hard for them to take the first step and talk to the lady. This is often associated with the development of the Internet. Allegedly, men are used to dating on sites where they do it quite easily, but in the real world now everything is not easy.

However, it is not so important to understand why young people stopped approaching girls they like. The main thing is to decide what to do with it. And there are only two options:

1. More actively provoke an acquaintance. For example: You need help with a question. The simplest thing is to "accidentally" drop documents on the floor; pretend that you cannot start the car; faint or start drowning at sea. The last two options are probably overkill. But sometimes, you have to go to the most unusual tricks and tricks in order to attract attention to yourself.
2. Take the initiative. Not to be some kind of "chess piece" being moved by others, but to play the game itself. This is more difficult, but for the sake of your own happiness you should try.

Only at first it seems difficult to start a conversation with a guy. Each approach is a lesson and experience. You just need to analyze the mistakes and make new attempts to get to know each other.

"Active ways"

Among them there are options that allow you to roll up to the guy in an original way, and there are also quite commonplace ones. One thing unites them: they are all tested in practice. Women leave new testimonials about their effectiveness.

Let's get down to specifics:

1. Ask a harmless question. It can be scary to start an acquaintance, immediately hinting at some kind of relationship. But the pretext for communication can be a simple question, with which passers-by sometimes turn to each other. The most typical example: “Where is such and such a university? Which bus should I take to get to it? " In this case, the girl can pretend that she came from another city and does not know how to drive or walk to the desired object. A young man interested in acquaintance can not only give directions, he will offer to see off the beautiful stranger. Agree. Travel time can be while away with a story about yourself. Before you say goodbye, you should leave your phone number. Although it is better for the man to ask for it himself.
2. Recourse. A similar way to start a dialogue with a stranger was already discussed above. Considering that not all guys are brave enough to approach a girl even to provide help, it is better to take the initiative into your own hands. It is necessary not only to show that you are in a difficult situation. It is worth contacting the guys you like with a request to provide some assistance. All the same example with a car: you need to stop, open the hood and peer into it carefully. If a handsome stranger appears on the horizon, you should run up to him and tell him about your trouble. The main thing is that the deception should not be revealed. When a person offers to drag the car to the service station, the mechanics will quickly realize that something is not clean in the case. However, you need to act depending on the situation. Sometimes you can simply and openly explain to a guy that you wanted to meet him.
3. Compliments. Every person in this world loves to be praised. A compliment is an interesting thing. On the one hand, when we say it, we are not hinting at anything, we just emphasize the dignity of a certain person. On the other hand, a compliment is an integral part of flirting. This duality should have a positive effect on shy girls. It is necessary, as it were, to "deceive" yourself: to instill that to say a compliment to an interesting man is normal, does not oblige you to anything. The young person is more likely to take the praise as a serious interest in his personality and support the communication.
4. We play games. At times, people get to know each other in very original ways. Serious success in this has been achieved by pick-up artists - those who are fond of “picking up” individuals of the opposite sex. The philosophy of their teaching is based on the rule that you need to "break the template." So, for example, girls are used to the fact that men get to know each other trivially, but not pick-up artists. The latter come up with funny and unusual phrases for dating. There are many examples on the net. Let's say: “Hello! .. Yes, me too ... (here - the bewildered expression on the face of the lady) I, too, am afraid to meet on the street. Let's be afraid together! " As a result, as practitioners assure, the girl falls into a kind of stupor, while receiving positive emotions. You can take some funny examples of such dialogues to your collection and use them against men.
5. Pretend to be an old friend. To implement this method, you must have a certain level of acting. Not big enough to perform well in the theater, but nonetheless. The girl must pretend that she met an old acquaintance, she is very pleased to see a man, she is glad to have the opportunity to communicate. Brave ones can hug a guy and kiss him on the cheek. Not all young people will react in the same way. Most will report the error immediately. The girl will need to apologize and say: "Since you are so similar to my friend, maybe we will meet?" Someone may ask the question: "Do we know each other?" A good answer is: "Yes, I saw you in my dreams." The smartest young people will support the game. It will be the easiest way to communicate with them.
6. We meet without gimmicks. Sometimes it is easier not to resort to deception, but to immediately declare your intentions. You can just walk up to a guy who has turned his head and say, “Hi! Let's get acquainted! I liked you so much that I would very much like to meet with you. " You can add something else to the phrase.
7. "Castings". If you still have a fear of approaching guys, but you really want to get to know each other, you can stock up on business cards or notes with your phone number, etc. You can accidentally drop such "leaflets" in front of an interesting guy; toss them discreetly into the pockets of handsome men; hand over without words.
8. Her friends can also acquaint a girl with a nice person. It all depends on the activity of each of the parties.

The listed methods are mostly unobtrusive and suitable for different places, any men.

Whether it is worth doing it - you need to decide individually. Many ladies act according to the principle: to find at least someone, we'll figure it out further.

But within the framework of the article, it is worth talking about certain dating places and certain types of guys.

People and environment

1. Often interesting men, decent-looking, are found in minibuses. It is more difficult to get to know each other in transport, because there are a lot of people around who will hear the whole dialogue. Feeling as if you are under the lenses of video cameras. The best option is to write a small letter to the handsome guy with his phone number and hand it over to him personally.
2. If a person is rich, does not travel in minibuses, but overcomes distances in a business class plane, he can be sent a message with a declaration of love, for example, by e-mail. The main thing is that the letter gets to the addressee, and not to his secretary.
3. In restaurants, cafes, clubs and even sanatoriums, it is better to get to know each other without inventing anything. When people are resting, they are relaxed and open. You can approach and offer friendship.
4. A fit man should be looked for in such places: a fitness club, a gym or a regular gym, a swimming pool, an ice rink. How to get a guy's attention? First, you can pretend to be a beginner. Let's say, to stand on skates in such a way that many young people will have a desire to train you or at least hold you back. You also need to be able to “learn”. Try to look sexy and look for bodily contact: touch the man, fall on him, etc.
5. You should not get acquainted at work, in the sense of the office or at the machine. It is better to wait for a colleague at the end of the day, start a conversation on a professional topic, and then gradually switch to a personal one according to the situation.

In general, one can recall enough dating plots. They all boil down to the above options. The only thing is that you need to competently look at a specific situation, correctly choosing the most organic way to establish a relationship.

Meet a guy on the internet

This is a separate, very popular topic. It has already been mentioned that not all men are ready to approach a lady on the street, suggest a walk at night under the moon. Many guys have decided that dating online is much easier. However, some of the ladies also think so. Moreover, there are many “places” where you can find a man who lives alone or with his parents, but not with his beloved.

Here is their top:

• dating sites with free registration;
• social networks - for example, Vkontkte;
• thematic forums;
• chats: independent and those that are "built" into the interface of dating sites;
• Skype and other services where you can communicate using video.

How to meet online? At most sites, you will need to correspond with the guy you like, gradually directing the matter to a real meeting. First of all, you need to find a worthy candidate. And this can be very difficult to do.

Pay attention to:

1. In the photo, determining whether it is real or fake: the guy really lives in a beautiful apartment, or just went to the studio.
2. Status. In this column, as a rule, they write a thought that fully characterizes a person. It is necessary to evaluate both the depth of thought and the literacy of the writing of the text.
3. You can understand whether a man is ready to create a family and, for example, give birth to a child, if you familiarize yourself with the information in his questionnaire.

They say that getting to know each other on the site is difficult. If you write in an original way, add good photos to your page and fill out a detailed form, a friend can be found quite realistically. It is possible that the search will have to spend a lot of time. However, if the goal is achieved even in a year or two, you will not have to regret anything. In the event of a quarrel with a young man, you can always return to the Internet and start your search anew.

Thus, meeting men is not as difficult and scary as it might seem at first glance. Of course, there are some tricks in this matter. The main ones are described in this article. So, take on board and send to seek your destiny!