There are families who live almost without conflict, where the husband is always or almost always pleased with his wife, and his wife - husband. Spouses who have achieved such idylls on the basis of mutual understanding, confidence, mutual respect and great love, truly happy people. But such families are very rare. More often it happens that the world in the family is achieved with the help of a simple female secret. The wife is lying to her husband, telling him only what he wants to hear, and what causes him invariably positive emotions. And since it does not happen in life so that there is only "on wool", then she has to lie very much.

She and her girlfriends calls for her to follow her example. "It was necessary to lie beautifully, it would be all right now. And you climbed with our truth, now do not complain. The scandal arranged, quarreled ... Yes, if I had myself at least half the truth, he would have killed me for a long time. " I do not know what truth was discussed, but this conversation was real, he heard me in the bus. It remains only to hope that the girl will not use the girlfriend advice, otherwise the family, where the wife is lying, will be threatened.

Why, when a wife lies her husband, family can collapse

The thing is that the lie is the biggest enemy of intimate relationships. True harmony and happiness can be created only on the basis of mutual sincerity and frankness. And happiness and peace, built on lies, will also be false and short. Because they are not achieved, but your ability to hide the truth and replace it with a false lie. And when the truth pops up out, but it will happen, you will happen, your illusory peace and peace will turn into a nightmare. And this nightmare will be the most real.

Once he learns:

• The fact that you had monthly when you portrayed my virginity.
• The fact that you were not pregnant when I got married, you managed to get pregnant only a month after the wedding.
• The fact that the child was born prematurely, only therefore coincided.
• Not a service car will be off home, and the chef itself is personally and that the golden ring for the new year is his gift, and not moms with dad.

And, of course, he will find out for what merits your chief is so favorable.

• About what you get not ten thousand per month, but twenty, and postpone money for yourself.
• The fact that you could not have sex with him are not because you treated inflammation of the appendages, but because I took an abortion. It wants him the second, and you and one a lot.

But in order not to upset him, you pretended to be pregnant, and myself quietly swallowed tablet. You somehow we managed to get pregnant, but you quickly "corrected."

• The fact that no one robs you is, you just shook money from mom at home, and my bag cut myself, and I justified the loss of money, got a reason to buy a new bag, and he regretted himself and consoled you morally and materially.
• The fact that you were not at any sick grandmother in the village of Komarovo, but perfectly rested with a friend in Sochi to "stolen" money and that the tan of yours was maritime, and not a garden ...

He will know everything, and even if not all, but only "something", every your lies are worthy of having to hate you.

Wife lies her husband: what awaits her

The consequences of female lies are very serious, sometimes even pushing a man's crime. And all for what? To create the illusion of peace and harmony for some time? And what then? In my opinion, such a game is not worth the candle.

The point is not even in whether you are lying in a large or fond of small things. Household lies, even if small, also does not behave anything good. Usually the husband is still the truth after some time. Its annoying yours, he completely ceases to believe you, constantly reproaches you (and not without reason) that your children are the same deceivers as you. You, by the way, also infuriates in Chad. But didn't you taught them about it?

A person who has repeatedly sniffed in lies, not only comes out of confidence, but also deprived of respect. And respect for each other's spouses is one of the necessary conditions for normal marriage. Having lost respect for the spouse, consider that he lost his spouse. Even if he lives with you, he will stop perceiving you seriously.

Taking a "hiding" and "instigator" in order to avoid discontent, complaints from her husband, quarrels and offense, you can lose much more than speaking the truth. It may happen that trying to avoid problems by resorting to the lies, you will be cautiously to yourself more serious problems. And saying the truth, on the contrary, you can avoid them:

• If you know what you should tell the truth, you will be much striking to treat your actions, and you will feel more worthy.
• Your truth is true, and therefore he will be better understood.
• Even if conflict situations arise, you will have to decide them. With each successfully authorized conflict, your relationship will rise to a higher level of development.
• Talking the truth, even if you even unpleasant, you deserve respect for at least for what was frank.
• And finally, your relationship will be bad whether good, but real. And the true relationship, even if not cloudless, better than the externally ideal, but artificially created by lies.

Even after all of what you say, you think: "But who needs it, is your truth? From her some problems! ", I will answer: our truth is needed to us. And your truth is needed, first of all, in order for your life to be real. And so that there are no problems from the truth, behave so that your actions are not necessary to hide.

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What to do if the husband is deceiving a pregnant wife?

Good day! I ask your advice. We are with my husband in marriage a year and a half (not yet wedded). I am 21, my husband 24. I am 9 months old pregnancy, a week ago I learned about my husband's relationship with another woman (made a printout of calls, for a couple of months they communicate through SMS and talk for hours while on work). The husband says that it's just communication and saw her a couple of times, nothing was, etc. He says that he loves only me, he does not exchange his family. I swore, which stopped communication, and today climbed into the phone and again the same thing, again calls. Constantly deceives. Help how I do? Wash out and disperse, stay with a baby one? Or continue to live in a lies with constant suspicions and tolerate? I do not see his desire to somehow change. How to continue to believe him? I do not satisfy any scandals, I spend calmly with love with him, and he flatly refuses to tell the truth, only angry and continues to deny everything.

Good! I sincerely ask for your forgiveness, but it is not a marriage. You are in confidence that you are married, being in the state-fixed cohabitation with your spouse. Before the state you have married and have some certain obligations, legal and material obligations. Before God and from the Church, you still, unfortunately, are in the prodigal cohabitation. Everything is suspended. The question you ask cannot be resolved by someone except you. Most likely, you are hard and you do not feel support from the spouse. You need your spiritual father who, knowing your family, will be able to specify the right actions. The Orthodox Church recommends that people coming to the "marriage of attachment", have one spiritual father so that he, knowing the problems of your souls, could prompt both what should be done, and from what to refrain.

Remotely, not knowing you, nor your companion, to say for sure what to do is impossible.

What I will write further has the basis only in the assumption of your hope of Christ as the Savior! If the spouse is like a senior (" the husband is the head of his wife, as well as Christ the head of the church"(Eph. 5:23)) Does not try to get God's blessing to your marriage through wedding, especially on the eve of the birth of the firstborn, then it is very sad. If he is now, on the eve of this event, not sincerely with you, if you, frankly, do not trust him, checking his telephone connections ... sad. Questions one for one?!

You ask questions about the future of your future life to the priest. That is, there is hope for God's help? Probably, it makes sense to be attentive and to his requests. In the sacrament of marriage, you promise God to be Christians, take care of the Christianity of the family and contribute to the spiritual growth of the spouse, comply with the loyalty to each other, and also " about decent education Chad constant care to have" In your own question about spiritual components, unfortunately, there is nothing. Do you believe in God? And your spouse? Has baptized? Are you trying to work hard for your own salvation?

Try to pray to God and the Most Holy Theotokos about the grace and spiritual permission. The Lord will not leave you!

Most people, entering into marriage, are not morally ready to fully open their second half.

The desire to get at least small, but independence, as well as the impossibility or reluctance to tell a partner about the true position of things - here is a few reasons that pushing spouses on the path of lies.

Love self-deception

Many are faced with the problem of self-deception: love turned out to be a simple passion, the feelings for the object of recent passion were cooled and disappeared.

Very often, people marry too hastily, not having time to learn the true face of their chosen one (chosen). The consequence of self-deception can be a complete disappointment in the marital life and in relations at all.

In order not to regret the campaign to the registry office, it is not necessary to make reckless solutions and build illusions in relation to its second half.

Psychologists put insincerity of spouses in the first place in the rating of the causes of parting. It is a lie, according to researchers, becomes the main reason for quarrels and clarifying relationships.

Sincerity - a pledge of a strong family

On the one hand, to lie near a close person (husband or wife) is the most recent thing, but, on the other, how can I tell the truth to others if you can't be sincere with yourself. Many people only after the wedding are beginning to understand that love and tenderness from their relationship evaporated, and nothing remains that there could be two different people in the same boat. In this case, self-deception is: a man thought he loved, but in fact, the basis of marriage was a passion that very quickly cooled.

Many women who are married are inspired by examples of Hollywood meloders and women's novels with their mandatory happy finals. They believe that after the long-awaited wedding, a fabulous life will begin, and instead, they receive a unsettled life, irritable husband, etc. It is not surprising that women feel deceived in such a situation.

Men are also inclined to build illusions about marriage. Representatives of strong gender hoped that the stamp in the passport does not rely on their familiar image in life. And actually get instead of the usual gatherings with friends scandals and quarrels with his wife, which all the time finds a reason to express discontent.

The main problem of many marriages is the deceived expectations of partners who hoped for a bright future, and received a dubious present.

Deception - alarming symptom

Normal relations between two loving and self-respecting people should be built on trust.

If the spouses lie down to each other, it's a reason to think about the reasons that encourage them to deceive:

• Fear of offend a loved one: The truth is not always pleasant, and people who require that others be extremely sincere with them very often are not ready to accept reality.
• For the sake of stability in relationships: When, according to one of the spouses, the truth may cause collapse.
• Deception in the monetary sphere: Men and women in this case pursue different goals. Husbands, as a rule, exaggerate rumors about their earnings and other wives most often hide the spread of significant money from spouses.
• Lie for self-defense: In some cases, the spouses are better to come up with even the most incredible disadvantage in his justification than to tell about what happened in fact.
• Low self-esteem It can also be a reason for deception. Insecure people who constantly need to approve their actions on the part are incredible to exaggerate the positive traits of the character and attributing themselves non-existent merit.
• Deception as a way to save face: Most often to this kind of lies are abusing men who do not want a woman to see their weakness.

As you can see, in many cases, the spouses lie to each other not at all in order to hurt a close man, so it is very important to figure out why a person is lying.

Remember that if there is no confidence in the relationship, both spouses are to blame for the better, and it is necessary to work hard on yourself.

Or how to keep a woman?
I will start with a joke, and, like, it is known, in every joke there is some truth. But in this
Joke Share of Truth Contributes most of the most words - all - 100%
Therefore, men who run through this joke only through their eyes, I would advise you to count again, having taken into the meaning of the following.

Cute, I'm so tired - we go for two hours!
- Be patient, honey, soon the halt.
- I can not! I have a backpack my shoulders of otter, sneakers hise, sun bake!
- Well, what can I do, love?
- Maybe you get out of the backpack?

And so: how to keep a woman?

1. To keep a woman from treason, it is necessary to maintain a sense of attachment. For most women, affection means safety, protection, comfort and support. Therefore, the husband must constantly prove his wife that he supports and protects her that he perceives her problems as his own, and also that he proud of her.

2. It is incredibly important to communicate a husband and wife. Women need a husband, including in order to talk to him. Studies have shown that after the wedding, husbands often cease to talk to their wives, which becomes the cause of many problems, in particular, women begin to look for another interlocutor.

3. Women need honesty and openness. Wife wants to completely trust her husband in everything concerns his past, present and future. If the wife feels that the husband is deceiving her - it destroys her sense of security.

4. This family is unthinkable without mutual financial obligations. Women need money to live comfortably. Women are counting on the fact that their husbands understand it.

5. Family obligations. The wife expects that her husband will be a good father and will perform certain duties on the house. The overwhelming majority of women instinctively wish to create their home and have children. Most women also expect that their husbands will be leaders in the family and will take on the main material and moral obligations.

If these 5 points are embodied in real relationships, then you, men, are guaranteed 99% success in your family life. Why 99%? Yes, just because the foregoing is not a panacea. The missing 1% is blocked by male pride or simply not the desire to understand who is a woman. Hence the question arises - why women are deceiving their husbands. (no question of question).
Women summarizes a strong emotional beginning. Maybe most of those women who have novels on the side, are looking for something that they are not able to give them their own husbands: a special careful attitude, such as tenderness and communication. When women talk about their novels, they almost never emphasize the sexy side, and in reality the sex on the side can even be worse than married. But attention, romance, feeling of their significance that they receive from lovelines makes them unusually attractive. Their view of things, they themselves as a personality, what they say - everything matters and appreciates this new man.
Women often experience a sense of guilt. Several studies have been held, which make it possible to assume that women mostly feel guilty of married infidelity than men.
The emotional state of women sometimes pushes them to make actions contrary to their desires and needs. In many women, the feeling of guilt often works as a prohibiting factor. In other words, the feelings of guilt from the consciousness that they experience strong sexual attraction to another man may be enough so that nothing happens. And if they entered into sexual relations, they often justify themselves, telling themselves that it is love.
I think after all of the foregoing, it is not necessary for a long time and tediously explain that the woman who decided on the novel on the side is rather a victim of circumstances than the maliciousness. Such a woman did not feel desirable for her man. I did not feel enough attention from his part. A rose that sticks in the shade - always stretches to warmth ... and no longer important who will warm her. Because the gardener has long forgot about her.

Therefore, a man needs to determine its relation to the incident and try to correct the latter as follows:
Try first to satisfy your partner, and then you can take care of your own pleasure.
If your friend does not want to have sex today - leave her alone, it can really have a headache or just no mood - it can also be! After all, you do not live last day, there is still tomorrow, the day after tomorrow ... Say her about love, give her gifts. This is optional some expensive gifts - flowers, not only for birthday or March 8, a book ... a trifle, as they say, but nice.
Let your wife feel that you are her greatest support, prove her full and limitless love. Demonstrate that you love her as it is. In no case criticize it for any reason: Do not forget that women are very critical to their appearance, so try not to criticize her shape or breast size. In general, it is better to keep silent at all than to make an unsuccessful compliment. Let the spouse be worried about his weaknesses and imperfections, because he knows: she will always meet support on your part.
And of course the most important thing: freedom is the necessary preliminary condition for love.
If we are under whose control, love is impossible. Control contributes to the emergence of slave dependence, and not love. The ability of each spouse does not interfere with the other to be free, an independent person - one of the signs of solid relationships.

And there will be no woman to seek adventures on the side, and will not do this from the revenge (there are such), if you get love and care, respect and kindness from your man. It will not seek adventures if he feels with him for a truly woman! If it feels that belongs to the best of all. There is no need to do it. All its needs are satisfied. She feels protected, beloved and desirable. She likes others. It belongs to the best man.

Well, a little humor:

Husband comes from work home, takes cells and goes to the bathroom.
Rings home.
Wife: Allo
Husband: Baby, I love you!
The husband quickly comes out of the bath and asks:
- Who called?
And the wife answers:
- Yes, so, girlfriend!

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December 20, 2019 09:59

By Fabiosa.

Men are different. If one is very decent, others love to walk around and about. Women, especially when they are in love, love ears, so we are very easy to spend in a candy-bought period when we do not see the obvious.

Often, men hang on our ears one and the same noodles.

We give a kind of crib, on what men's phrases it is worth paying close attention to not be deceived.

1. "I'm looking for only a serious relationship"

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It is commendable if it really is so, but often men say it for a red senlee, to seize the woman to seize. At the beginning of the relationship, see more on the Acts of the Uhager. They talk louder than any words.

2. "As I saw you, I understood right away - you are the one I was looking for all my life"

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Another phrase from the lexicon of the Pikaper. Of course, you are a wonderful woman, but how did he manage to see it? It happens, people live for years and everyone will learn about each other every day, and here is a fleeting acquaintance, and already - fate? Do not rush, look at it better.

3. "We will always be together"

Too very arrogant, rashly and hastily. How many ladies he already said so, I wonder? Here you do not know how the day it gets up tomorrow, and he throws such serious phrases after a couple of days of dating.

4. "To you all women were somehow not so, but you ..."

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The very fact of comparison with another woman - already ugly behavior from his part. Most likely, he is ordinary loving. An intelligent man, even if a comparison in your favor, will not voicing it.

5. "I want a child from you"

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This phrase dream to hear many women consisting of serious relationships. But if you are familiar with all anything? Perhaps this is one of the tricks to quickly achieve a woman.

How, according to your observations, men still deceive us? Tell us in the comments!

The information in this article bears exceptionally injurious nature and does not replace the consultation of a certified profile specialist.