What to do?
It must be said right away that there is no universal scheme that tells you what to do if nothing pleases you and you don’t want anything. There are many reasons for apathy and blues, so you need to look for appropriate ways.- Start doing something. The more there is in life, the more it drags on and the more we mess around. You need to do interesting things in such a way that you get tired of it. It’s good if there are no pauses in your day: exercising, working, cleaning snow or cleaning the yard, learning a foreign language, helping neighbors. ..We start and act like an automaton without brakes: work, hobbies, self-development ... let your day be filled to capacity with different activities, and not monotonous.
- Go to a boarding school, a nursing home, an orphanage, a hospital. Communicate with the inhabitants, bring them the necessary things or sweets for children, support and share love and tenderness. You definitely have a lot of it, and when you understand that someone needs it, it inspires.
- Take care of your body. A beautiful body has a beautiful and positive spirit. Therefore, find the kind of sport or activity in general that pleases you: fitness, hiking, swimming, horseback riding, dancing ... if you have been doing some kind of sport for a long time, you can change it for a while and diversify your activity. Most of all, hiking and social dances bring joy: here you have movement, communication, and a sea of impressions.
- Imagine that you have only a minute, a day or a week left to live ... If a person is put a gun to his head, he is unlikely to be sad and fall into apathy. That is why there are so many people who play with death and are fond of extreme sports or extreme sports in general.
- Unblock your feelings. This refers to the negative, those that we hide from ourselves. To do this, you can go to a psychotherapist or look into yourself on your own. Just alone with ourselves and in complete peace, we focus on breathing and think about how we really feel for our parents, children, ourselves, our half. Immerse yourself in these feelings and don't be shy about them. So a lot of negativity will come out and the attitude towards relatives and friends will change for the better. And at the same time, interest in life will return.
- Laugh. You can compose a whole one that you have not yet watched, and watch one at a time every day, you can read jokes or funny stories. You can peep and eavesdrop on funny things on the street, at work, on the bus. It does help! You can also smile at everyone you see on the street and not be afraid that you will be considered strange. Someone will count, and someone will smile in response.
- Create your "party". Remember old friends, make acquaintances, organize interesting meetings, introduce people to each other, unite with a common interest or idea! Believe it or not, you can have a luxurious club of interests in your yard: chess, mafia, preference, needlework. Share with people what interests you and get energy from them. Just don't go inside!
- Find your purpose. Or remember him. You can work with a psychotherapist, or you can scroll back your life and remember when you enjoyed life, burned and saw the meaning in your existence. When did it stop? When did you turn off this path? Why did it happen? Find that moment and rewrite life from there.
- Take a rest. Stop, meditate, get out into the forest or to the river, listen to water and fire, listen to the forest, clean air and your soul. Nature and relaxation are also cures for depression.
- Set a new goal. Or just a bigger task. It will be a crisis, which means a chance to grow and become better, change, move to a new step. Here it is important to take small steps, dividing your goal into stages and milestones. Not a day without a step towards your dream!
Every person has their own limit in life. It happens that a person is so overworked that he loses the meaning of his whole life. Phrases begin to appear: “tired of living”, “very tired”, “I can’t do this anymore”. What to do? How to cope with the problem and prevent suicide?
The reasons
There are factors that cause a person to lose interest in life:
- Problems that hinder the implementation of the planned.
- A template life is hard work, you have to obey generally accepted rules.
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Quite often, many people plan everything in advance. For example, getting married at a certain age, having children, making a career, building their own model of the future. However, you don't get everything you want. Therefore, there is longing, despondency.
In some situations, you have to obey a certain group of people, agree with someone else's opinion. For example, parents like to choose a prestigious profession for their child, but he does not like it at all, he wants to find himself in another area. But still, parents win, and then a person suffers all his life, doing an unloved job. Therefore, it is important to choose a profession not according to salary, but to your liking. Believe me, in your favorite business you will be able to develop more.
Constant, hassle drives a person into depression. At the first symptoms, it is necessary to contact a psychotherapist in order to prevent suicide. He will prescribe the necessary therapy, get rid of, return interest in life.
The problem is typical for people with childish character traits. Most often appears in men. It is known that it is difficult for the strong half to overcome various difficulties, so a man often withdraws into himself, undergoes depression.
Of course, it is very difficult for those who lose a loved one, going through a divorce and other serious situations. In this case, you can see the "mask of detachment" on the face. It is difficult to help here, it takes time, the support of friends, the work of a specialist.
Some become too bored, so negative thoughts appear. To avoid this condition, follow these rules:
- Make changes to your daily schedule. For example, change the route to work, refuse transport - leave earlier, you can download music to your smartphone and relax along the way. Such walks are quite useful, while strengthening the nervous system.
- Experiment! Don't be afraid to try something new. You should not constantly stuff yourself with monotonous food, go for many years with the same hairstyle, buy almost the same things. Change every day, enjoy the innovation.
- Decorate the interior. You can make repairs or just sort out old things, throw away the trash, buy something new. Add bright colors to the interior, uplifting.
- Be a little selfish. There are many different responsibilities in our life. All of them negatively affect the psyche, lead to the development of depression. Love yourself, excessive obedience, stiffness is bad. You must show everyone your confidence.
- Enjoy life and appreciate every moment, do not miss it.
How to return the desire to live?
First of all, you need to accept the world around you, yourself, treat everything with gratitude. For some reason, many are sure that in order to achieve something, you need to lose all moral principles. In fact, life always responds in the same way that you do to it. In order not to suffer in the future, not to lose interest, it is necessary to remain human in any situation!
The desire to live is self-realization, the development of an independent thought process. You must be completely satisfied with yourself, with your actions. Please note that inner satisfaction cannot be obtained without. Just do not confuse success and a lot of money. It often happens that a poor person who counts pennies is much happier than a rich one.
Success is not an expensive car, a big house, a villa. All these are just the little things in life. A successful person who has fully realized himself in his favorite business, every day returns home to his relatives and friends. Such people do not lose the meaning of life, because they know what they live for, build their plans, and have certain goals.
How to help yourself?
There are some points that will help get out of apathy, a depressive state:
- Balance your diet. Avoid unhealthy snacks. The main thing is to eat regularly, eat according to the schedule. The menu needs to be calculated so that you do not need an additional intake of vitamins and minerals. You can afford to eat some dark chocolate, due to which endorphins are thrown out.
- Start your own diary in which write down all the successes, little things.
Sometimes a person comes back to life when he experiences a state of shock. That is, something is happening, and urgent action is needed. In this case, the patient forgets about depression, gets involved in work, solves the problem. The main thing is that the actions are still controlled by a specialist, otherwise there may be serious, negative consequences.
Don't want to live? Pay attention to your day and night regimen, whether you sleep correctly, whether you get enough rest. Normalize sleep, and also find your favorite hobby that will help you distract from all the bad things.
Is everything going smoothly in your life? Remember that life is rich in different events, so reconsider it, look optimistically. Perhaps things will change for the better. A person likes to exaggerate a lot of things, carefully analyze the situation in which you find yourself. Is everything so scary? Maybe you are thinking a lot, but in fact everything is fine. Look around, start noticing the beautiful - the bright sun, clear sky, green grass, beautiful flowers. Rejoice in everything that surrounds you. Be truly happy!
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Hello, my name is Tatyana. Recently, I have lost interest in life. I eat, sleep, watch TV and sit at the computer. I do my homework through force. I took care of my old grandmother for a long time, the three of us lived, she, my child and I. My communication with people was limited for a long time, no interesting events happened. Last year my grandmother died. I suffered her death very hard. he is 11 years old. I got a job as a taxi dispatcher. This job seemed to be created for me. But I had to leave because of a conflict with my superiors. Then I got a job at hairdressing courses, I had to go to another city. I ended up in a completely different world. I was surrounded by creative people with eyes burning with a thirst for life, it was very fun and interesting to study, and I was always in the spotlight. Since I am a sociable person I like to joke, at school I was always the leader in the class, in companies - the ringleader. At the end of my studies, I returned home, and in my heart there was a feeling that I was going to bury myself alive. Although there were plenty of plans and strength to fulfill them at that time. At home, I couldn’t get a job and I couldn’t open my own business .Self-realization did not work out again. I have clients, but they are few and they come very rarely. And I want to see them less and less. I decided to move to the city where I studied, many friends and mentors remained there, everyone was happy about my move and were waiting for me. But it was at that moment that I found out that I was pregnant. My common-law husband and child were very happy about this news. Husband said that we should legitimize our relationship. In general, everyone is happy, they congratulate us, and I am more and more depressed. I live for my son and husband, that is, their life. But nothing happens in mine, I degrade, turn into a plant. I don’t want to sit on my husband’s neck, but I don’t see self-realization and I can’t understand what to do next. I can’t do hairdressing now. Advise me how to continue my life?
Hello, Tatyana! I can disappoint you, because. do not write out prescriptions describing how a person should live on. He must make such decisions on his own, since only he is responsible for his life. Let's try to understand your situation, but this will require additional information on your part. The first thing to understand is what do you want for yourself? What was your job before when you lived with your grandmother? How will you understand that you have realized yourself, and do not continue to degrade, i.e. what will your life look like with self-realization? Do I understand correctly that you perceive the lack of work, the inability to be the center of attention of others and the lack of communication as degradation or is it expressed in something else? I found some contradiction in your words: on the one hand, you trained as a hairdresser, but for some reason you don’t want to see the small number of clients that you have, although you tried to get a job in this specialty and open your own business. What is the reason, do you think? You write that everyone is happy about the news about yours. And you yourself rejoice at this and are you ready to legitimize your relationship with a common-law husband? I'm waiting for your answers.
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Yes, you correctly understood me in what I consider degradation when I cannot work and communicate with other people. And I don’t even know whether I should be happy or not about my pregnancy. The birth of a child and caring for him will take me two or three years. All this time I will have to devote only to him. I am afraid that I will lose my skills during this time, fall behind fashion and new technologies in the profession. I am unsure about the future and do not appreciate now those few clients that I have, because I think that I will lose them anyway due to the birth of a baby. The husband says that we will definitely legalize the relationship, but does not say exactly when. I tried to talk about this topic, but he didn’t answer anything concrete and I decided not to put pressure on him. When I was taking care of my grandmother, I did not work anywhere. I tried several times to get a job, but each time I had to leave work when my grandmother was sick. In the end, I decided to devote myself completely to caring for her. After all, she raised me instead of my mother and I could not leave her. Communication with other people was limited for me then, as it is now. I became a very insecure person due to all these events. Therefore, I can’t imagine anything specific, how I can realize myself. I want to work, communicate with people and bring them positive emotions. Something like that.
Good evening, Tatyana! You know, now you remind me of the smart Elsa from the fairy tale of the Brothers Grimm. In a fairy tale, parents sent their daughter to the cellar for beer for matchmakers. She went down to the cellar and suddenly noticed above her a pickaxe on the wall, which the masons had forgotten there by mistake. And then Clever Elsa began to cry and lament: “If I marry Hans, and we have a child, and he grows up, and we send him to the cellar to draw beer, suddenly a pickaxe will fall on his head and kill him to death.” Here she sits and cries, wailing with all her might about the impending misfortune. Also, you have not yet lost your customers, but are already sad about this. You have not lost your skills yet, but you are already afraid of losing them. Think, you do not live in the wilderness, you have the Internet and communicate with professionals, learn the latest fashion trends, exchange opinions on forums or in real time. You can also learn something new in hairdressing through webinars without leaving your home. So you can always keep up with the times. As for practical skills, you can discuss this issue with your husband and, for example, one hour or at any other time convenient for you, go to the client’s house or to a nearby salon. There are many options, choose the one that suits you best. It's sad only because you don't know whether you should be happy or not with your unborn child. As a rule, we either rejoice or not, but do not consider whether or not to do it. You write that you want to bring positive emotions to people, but unfortunately, you still don’t know how or you don’t allow to bring positive emotions to yourself personally, but you need to start with this. You consider the child as an obstacle to your self-realization, but for some reason you do not consider it as a gift from above, through which your self-realization can come. Start bringing joy to your child today and please him with your good mood and optimistic attitude! Read the children's book "Polyanna" by Eleanor Porter, you will not only enjoy it, but also give you good food for thought. As for the relationship with your husband, then choose a date and time when both you and he can calmly discuss the issue of legitimizing your relationship, because both of you are responsible for the child! If possible, I would recommend that you contact a specialist for a face-to-face consultation in order to work through your fears, work with negative attitudes and replace them with positive ones, find your resources and consider possible areas for your self-realization. An important issue is the analysis of your childhood and relationship with your grandmother, but this issue can be postponed due to your situation, and first of all concentrate on yourself, your child, your family. Peace and harmony to you!
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Thank you very much, Svetlana Nikolaevna! I will try to follow your advice. And about my childhood, you are right - it was terrible. I don’t have the opportunity to consult with a specialist in person, after all, I live in the wilderness. And I can communicate with good specialists only through the Internet. Therefore, I look forward to our further communication with you.
Tatyana, good evening! If you have any questions or just want to discuss any situation that concerns you, do not hesitate to write. When you read the book, share your impressions, I would be interested to know about them. I recommend that you watch the movie "Baby" (Bruce Willis in the title role), perhaps it will help you understand yourself about choosing a profession. The film is very light and positive, it is available on the Internet at kinozal.tv. Good luck to you!
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Hello, Svetlana Nikolaevna! I read the book "Pollyanna", I liked it very much. Reminds me a little of my childhood when I was the same naive and kind girl. And once again confirmed my opinion that we all come from childhood. But it seems to me that in adulthood it is impossible to remain constantly in this state. After all, life brings us so many disappointments. Although I think it’s worth trying to look for more positive moments in everything. Unbeknownst to myself, I began to look for more positive emotions lately, I began to laugh more. But communication with people is still limited. Therefore, I cannot yet share my joys with others, with the exception of my loved ones. But I already consider this my small victory over my oppressed state. For which I sincerely thank you, Svetlana Nikolaevna. You shook me up and showed me the right direction. Thank you again and look forward to further communication.
Tatyana, good evening! Thank you for your review of the book, I was pleased to know that you not only liked the book, but it reminded you of yourself as a child. It is also joyful that you are not sitting in a chair, but are already taking the first steps to pull yourself out of the "oppressive swamp". It is also important that you began to laugh, that you make your loved ones happy, and when loved ones rejoice, then this is doubly joyful! Super! As for disappointments, you know that life is like a zebra: a white stripe, a black stripe. If only white stripes, then sooner or later, life will become insipid and boring. But all sorts of obstacles and crises, this is a great chance for spiritual growth, because the very word "crisis" in Chinese means "danger" and "chance". True, in the first place, as a rule, we notice only the negative side, but the advantages are seen later, although many also lose sight of them. And if the situation is negative and it is no longer possible to change it, then you should at least try to change your attitude towards it. I am reminded of a parable on this subject. “Two angels stopped for the night in the house of a wealthy family. The family was inhospitable and put them to sleep in a cold basement. When the owners spread the bed, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and patched it up. When the younger angel asked why he did it, the older one answered : - Things are not what they seem. The next night they came to the house of a very poor but hospitable man and his wife. The couple fed the angels and put them to sleep in their beds. In the morning the angels found the owners of the house crying. Their only cow, whose milk was the only income of the family, died. The younger angel asked the older one: "How did you let this happen? You helped the first family that had everything, and you allowed the poor family to lose their only cow. Why?" When we were in the basement, I realized that there was a treasure with gold in a hole in the wall and I repaired the wall, that the owners could not find it.When we slept in a poor family the next night, the angel of death came for the owner's wife. I gave him the cow. Things are not what they seem!" Now let's talk about your limited communication. Tell me, who or what exactly is this communication limited to? What specifically prevents you from communicating? Lack of work? What is there in your city that could interest you, where could you prove yourself? Maybe it's dancing or fitness for expectant mothers, or maybe it's some kind of courses, or maybe it's communication on Internet forums on professional interests, or maybe it's singing under karaoke, embroidery or finger painting? Please write 2 steps that you are ready to take in the near future to remove the restriction from communication and set the exact date when you will do it. If you have not yet registered on the site kinozal.tv, then do it. It describes in detail how to download movies. I recommend watching very positive films: 1) "The Last Vacation" (American with Gerard Depardieu) and 2) Always Say Yes (with Jim Carrey). I look forward to your new victories!
No one is immune from life's adversities. Sometimes problems are stronger than us. They seem to turn into a large, black cloud hanging over every corner of life, casting a shadow on everything that used to give strength and joy. Lost interest in everything - if a person realized this, then he fell into the net of deep depression.
In such a situation, accompanying symptoms are not always detected, which can prove the seriousness of the impending threat. The patient may appear to be as positive and able-bodied as before. And this is the great danger of such depression. A person behaves as usual, while a catastrophe develops inside him.
Depression begins to control the mind of its prisoner. Gradually, his attitude to the events of everyday life and the people around him changes beyond recognition. The patient ceases to distinguish small incidents from global ones. Everything becomes the same - gray, insignificant, uninteresting, not worth emotions.
Causes of the problem
Interest in life has disappeared - this problem is so subjective that it is hardly possible to fit here a complete list of the reasons that led to this state. But soul experts identify the main factors that can trigger depression.
| Problems in personal life | "Amur" affairs have always been at the forefront of human interests. Unfortunately, we do not always meet reliable, faithful people. Relationships often fall apart hopelessly, depriving us of faith in the future and rewarding us with a bunch of mental disorders. |
| Difficulties at work | Work is the main crutch on which our life relies. If this crutch breaks or cracks menacingly, the soul will not be able to stay in a positive state. A person is constantly in a state of stress, which sooner or later will do its job. |
| Personal qualities | Someone will walk along a thread over a lava flow and not flinch. And for someone, every burnt pancake becomes a reason for hysteria. People are different, but such qualities as infantilism, vulnerability, impressionability, suspiciousness often become the causes of depression and low self-esteem. |
| severe stress | It happens that you give a dream for many years and all your strength without a trace, and it suddenly turns its back to you, like a fairy-tale hut. Yes, life sometimes shows us terrible things that are by no means fabulous. Sometimes their imprint remains on the psyche, and it is impossible to come into balance on your own. |
| Negligence to the nerves | Many cases of depression (including those leading to suicide) could have been prevented if the patient had turned to a psychotherapist in time. But for some reason, people are sure that visiting a spiritual healer is voluntarily admitting to being insane. “Am I such a weakling that I can’t handle it?” the man thinks. And, alas, it doesn't work. And long years of treatment could be replaced in due time with 2-3 conversations with a specialist who would bring the patient out of a negative mood. |
If you have lost interest in life, and you don’t want anything, and this has been going on for more than a week, it’s time to sound the alarm. Depression has serious consequences.
The danger of inner indifference
Psychiatrists warn: it is not depression itself that is terrible, but what a person who does not treat it turns into. The main dangers that await every patient with depression:
If interest in life has disappeared, it is necessary to identify the exact cause that caused this condition. If a person fell into depression from unrequited love, and they begin to teach him not to be afraid of heights, the disease will progress. If the exact cause is not identified, any treatment will be useless.
Fortunately, depression can be corrected, but it is always a long and complex work. And no matter how skeptical you are about psychotherapy, you can’t do without it, alas, in the case of an advanced form of depression. Tips from the series “Become easier, go outside, hug a cat, buy yourself a Snickers” are unlikely to help a depressed patient. Although the establishment of a rest and sleep regimen, taking vitamins and the desire to recover is an important help in this difficult struggle.
It often happens that in a certain life period, interest in everything that previously seemed important and attractive may disappear. The person claims that interest in life has disappeared, and apathy, a state of deep depression, is to blame. In such a situation, extensive symptoms are observed. It is significant that in some cases there is no depression, the mood does not change. In this case, there is . This is dangerous and very difficult, because it is quite difficult to identify somatized depression. In particular, there is a negative background, and a person begins to think that his life has only bad sides. In addition, he is sure that the situation is exactly the same with his relatives.
In addition, in such a state, people are sure that they themselves are the cause of the failures that occur. In this case, it makes sense to find out what apathy is, because it is known that in this case a person becomes indifferent, does not strive for anything. Apathy is characterized by the fact that indifference to almost everything arises, and it does not matter that events of various importance occur in life, no activity arouses interest and attention. Is it possible to somehow overcome this indifference? Psychotherapists assure that there are always ways, it is important that a person knows about it, and does not think that he alone is experiencing such a problem.
Causes of this condition
It has long been proven that there are many reasons why a person can literally withdraw into himself. First of all, professional activity affects, if new stresses at work are added every day, then anyone can lose faith in themselves, and thoughts arise that it is impossible to cope with the task, so there is only one step to depression.
Another reason is the presence of "childish traits" in a person, and basically, they are found in men. You can often hear that a man is a second child, and this statement has a certain meaning. It is known that if it is difficult for a man to overcome any difficulties in life, and this continues for a long time, then he can withdraw into himself, completely surrendering to depression.
While this doesn't happen often, it's easy to explain. This is the loss of loved ones, divorce, the collapse of a dream that you have been striving for all your life, and so on. In addition, there are people who are naturally depressed. Their faces almost always have a “mask of detachment”, although friends and relatives try to support them.
You should know that it makes no sense to try to cheer up such people, because after your departure they will again become gloomy and withdrawn. If you have lost interest in your usual life, you must not only try to get rid of this condition on your own and with the help of friends, but also get the help of a doctor.
Usually people are dismissive of treatment, even if they realize that they are suffering from depression, and this is a serious mistake. Currently, depression can be successfully treated with drugs, and the result of such therapy is always pleasing.
Reveal the cause
If everything has become indifferent, you don’t want to do anything, there is no interest in life, you need to find out what caused the depression. In practice, there are cases when a person suffers from a misunderstanding of the opposite sex, does not find a common language. Over time, there is a closure in oneself, thoughts of hopelessness come. A person begins to think that no one will ever be seriously interested in him.
Moreover, this situation occurs not only among young people, but also with adults. If self-confidence is absent, a person is clamped, then it is required to liberate him, a stimulus is needed that allows him to gain confidence.
It's no secret that many women get out of depression thanks to shopping. To feel confident, updated and irresistible, it is enough to change the style, and then the whole world will see these updates. Of course, one shopping is not always enough, you will need to make new acquaintances, go on a date.
According to experts, some women are lonely just because they are perfect, and men are simply afraid of their beauty. As a result, such ladies lose interest in life, because they cannot find a man who is able to truly love them, not only under the influence of external attractiveness.
There are moments that contribute to the withdrawal from apathy and from depressive states. In this case, individual qualities and character traits play a role. It is important to balance the diet, eat regularly, and at the same time, forget about snacks, you need to eat in accordance with the schedule. Me should be calculated in such a way that there are no deficiencies in minerals, vitamins.
Get yourself a notebook of successes, and enter into it everything that you have succeeded, even the little things. Including dark chocolate in your diet, although it may seem banal, but this method also helps to improve the situation. The thing is that thanks to chocolate, endophins are released.
There are cases when a person was returned to normal life with the help of a shock fast state. That is, a certain incident has occurred, measures must be taken, so the patient immediately forgets about his depression, he begins to work on solving the problem. But, such moments are carried out under the supervision of a specialist, it is not recommended to carry them out on your own, you can get even deeper negative consequences.
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