I'm tired, and tired of being tired.
Life on borrowed time
To understand something, a person needs to experience a catastrophe, pain, poverty, and the proximity of death.
Life on borrowed time
Only an unhappy person knows what happiness is.
Three comrades
All big words about happiness pale before the word “illness”.
Shadows in Paradise
At midnight the universe smells like stars.
Because it's night now. Because, if you want to know, we are all like sparks driven by an unknown wind.
Triumphal Arch
When there are no quarrels, it means everything will end soon.
She had not given up yet, but she was no longer fighting.
Erich Maria Remarque "Night in Lisbon"
After all, a miracle always awaits us somewhere next to despair.
Erich Maria Remarque "A Time to Live and a Time to Die"
You never have to go back anywhere.
EM. Remarque “A time to live and a time to die.”
Life on borrowed time
Living life calmly is what seems like the most incredible adventure today.
"Triumphal Arch"
The less self-esteem a person has, the more he is worth.
Only the dead could truly judge what war is: only they alone knew everything to the end.
Black obelisk
Every experience is worth something. And as long as it's just money, it's okay.
Promised land
Hope dies harder than the person himself.
Promised land
Only the simplest things console. Water, breath, evening rain. Only those who are lonely understand this.
E. Remarque “Arc de Triomphe”
Only cows are happy these days. Or maybe they don't. Maybe just rocks.
A time to live and a time to die
You are alive! How many people accepted death, but still wanted to live a little longer, even just a little longer!
Promised land
What is repeated often can no longer hurt as much.
love thy neighbour
It's so simple. Love is when you want to grow old with someone.
"Triumphal Arch"
Everything in the world depends only on a small amount of heat.
love thy neighbour
Incurable cancer of the soul.
Night in Lisbon
Only a dream helps us come to terms with reality. E.M. Remarque “Arc de Triomphe”
Peace, fireplace, books, silence... Previously, this was seen as mere philistinism. Now these are dreams of paradise lost.
Triumphal Arch
Thinking can be just as exhausting as running hard.
"Spark of Life"
I have no future. None. You can't imagine how much this makes things easier.
"Life on Borrow"
The less self-esteem a person has, the more he is worth.
What can one person give to another except a drop of warmth? And what could be more than this?
We are so afraid of being intrusive that we appear indifferent.
Ah, we are all children, lost, stupid children, and the night always lies in wait for our home.
Return
You think that I am throwing away my money, but I think that you are throwing away your life.
Life on borrowed time
We live in an era of paradoxes. In order to preserve peace, they are forced to wage war.
Night in Lisbon
There is more unhappiness in life than happiness. The fact that it doesn't last forever is just mercy.
Night in Lisbon
Don't take anything from your old life with you. Nothing! And don’t look back - this will only make you tired and lose strength.
love thy neighbour
You smile and you are so calm? Why don't you scream?
- I scream, but you don’t hear.
A time to live and a time to die
Only a dream helps us come to terms with reality.
Triumphal Arch
The greatest danger awaits the one who thinks that he has already been saved.
Promised land
Hatred of foreigners is the surest sign of ignorance.
Promised land
A person can become close to you in three days. And the one who lives next to you for years may never know what your favorite color is.
Thinking can be just as exhausting as running hard.
Spark of life
I stood next to her, listened to her, laughed and thought how scary it is to love a woman and be poor.
Erich Maria Remarque "Three Comrades"
- What a dark fantasy you have.
- Fantasy? I have a dark experience.
Life on borrowed time
During the war, all people's ideas about happiness are always associated with food.
A time to live and a time to die
Loneliness is a disease, very proud and extremely harmful.
Promised land
Loneliness has nothing to do with whether we have many or few acquaintances.
Black obelisk
He who is alone will never be abandoned. But sometimes, in the evenings, this house of cards collapses, and life turns into a completely different melody - haunting with sobs, throwing up wild whirlwinds of melancholy, desires, discontent, hope - hope to escape from this stupefying nonsense, from the senseless twisting of this barrel organ, to escape no matter where. Ah, our pathetic need for a little warmth; two hands and a face bending towards you - is this it, is it it? Or is it also a deception, and therefore a retreat and flight? Is there anything in this world other than loneliness?
A lonely person cannot be abandoned. Oh this pitiful human need for a grain of warmth. And is there really anything other than loneliness?
When a person is young, he does not feel pain. When he is very old, no. But in the interim it is difficult for him.
love thy neighbour
If a person is over seventy, then this is an advantage: he risks not so much of his life...
love thy neighbour
They say the first seventy years are the hardest to live. And then things will go smoothly.
Three comrades
If we lived constantly with the awareness of inevitable death, we would be more humane and merciful.
Life on borrowed time
A rejected, isolated piece of life in the territory of inevitable death.
Spark of life
Reason is given to man so that he understands: it is impossible to live by reason alone.
"Life on Borrow"
25 quotes from Erich Maria Remarque, a writer with a huge heart, who wrote about love so deeply and soulfully that it is impossible to tear yourself away from his works:
- A person can become close to you in three days. And the one who lives next to you for years may never know what your favorite color is.
- When you find yours, you don’t even want to look at anything else.
- The most fragile thing on Earth is the love of a woman. One wrong step, word, look and nothing can be restored.
- The strongest feeling is disappointment. Not resentment, not jealousy or even hatred... after them at least something remains in the soul, after disappointment - emptiness.
- What can one person give to another except a drop of warmth? And what could be more than this? Just don't let anyone get close to you. And if you let him in, you’ll want to hold him. And nothing can be held back...
- An apology does not mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that the value of your relationship is more important than your own ego.
- Your person is not the one who “feels good with you” - a hundred people can feel good with you. To yours - “it’s bad without you.”
- If your soul reaches out to someone, don’t resist. She is the only one who knows exactly what we need.
- We are just strangers who accidentally walked along some part of the path together without understanding each other.
- Stay friends? Plant a small garden on the cooled lava of faded feelings? No, this is not for you and me. This only happens after small affairs, and even then it turns out rather false. Love is not tarnished by friendship. The end is the end.
- No person can become more of a stranger than someone you loved in the past.
- We will never forget each other, but we will never get each other back.
- Love does not tolerate explanations. She needs actions.
- Remember one thing, boy: you will never, never, never again be funny in the eyes of a woman if you do something for her sake.
- It seemed to me that a woman should not tell a man that she loves him. Let her shining, happy eyes speak about this. They speak louder than any words.
- Women should either be idolized or abandoned. Everything else is a lie.
- We are so afraid of being intrusive that we appear indifferent.
- The greatest hatred arises for those who managed to touch the heart and then spat into the soul.
- I stood next to her, listened to her, laughed and thought how scary it is to love a woman and be poor.
- It's hard to find words when you really have something to say.
- The more you try to achieve a person who does not value you, the more painful the blows of his indifference will be for you.
- Trying to forget someone means remembering him all the time.
- People who believe that no one needs them are, in fact, often the most needed.
- It doesn't matter how often you see each other - what matters is what these meetings mean to you.
- The first person you think about in the morning and the last person you think about at night is either the reason for your happiness or the reason for your pain.
We don't learn to be artists, painters or writers - we learn to be.
We live in terrible times: we are afraid to scratch our iPhone, but we are not afraid to spoil people’s souls.
By running away from reality, we run away from ourselves. Then we get lost in the space of thoughts, and are delirious with obsessive ideas that cannot be translated into reality.
We are afraid of everything, as mortals should be, and we want everything, as if we had been awarded immortality.
Sometimes it happens that those whom we know best, we do not know at all.
Among the little ones we seem big, but among the big ones we Grow!!!
Some try so hard to appear that they forget to be.
The greatest human stupidity is fear. Fear of doing something, talking, confessing. We are always afraid, and that is why we lose so often.
We must truly love each other, live in peace and harmony. Instead we quarrel and fight. It should not be.
We must love more than be loved. We must give more than we take. We must be more open than closed to new ideas. Life is short, so let's enjoy what it has to offer.
Remember how good it was before, people could freely and calmly, without fear of what they would think of them, come or at least call and talk with their loved ones about what interests them or worries them. Now, many ridiculous, in my opinion, questions or assumptions arise that they are not waiting for us, and now people have many different problems with which they are busy, and it would be bad form to impose one more time.
Lonely people especially often think this way. who have friends or good acquaintances with their families. They assume from the very beginning that they will not be welcome. Of course, I’m not suggesting that you remind the same people about yourself every week, or even every day, but you cannot draw conclusions about yourself for others. Since you are absolutely not able to objectively assess what others think of you.
When a person from the outside seems unsociable, lonely and indifferent, then other people try to protect themselves from him. Therefore, my advice to you is to seem intrusive, if you try to meet halfway, then the likelihood of reciprocity on the part of the other person will be easier to achieve, do not be afraid to hear a refusal - this is a normal phenomenon.
I noticed that the older a person gets, the less he wants to go out somewhere, and he gets all the joy from life while being at home in a calm environment. And having gotten used to this state, it is difficult for him to change anything. For example, my parents: they used to happily and with great desire go to visit guests for various gatherings and meetings, but now taking them somewhere costs me a lot of moral, first of all, work. But if they succeed, they never regret it.
Remember life does not end, not at 20, not at 40, and not at 60, you choose how to spend your time, how, where and with whom to live and meet. But, if you come up with possible additional negative thoughts that have nothing to do with reality, then you can live the rest of your life in some kind of incomprehensible fear, make a mistake, or once again bother good people.
Have you ever thought about the fact that these people, on the contrary, are waiting for a person who will shake them up and change the usually sluggish and ordinary day off, which most of us spend stupidly lying on the couch, in front of the TV or computer screen. Therefore, under no circumstances don’t be afraid to be intrusive to other people, otherwise you will seem indifferent!
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We are afraid to show feelings because we are not always sure that another person needs them, and because of our own fears, we miss the chance to become closer to the one we care about, the chance to find our happiness.
According to the director of the Vladimir dating agency “Me and You,” family psychologist and interpersonal relationship consultant Elena Kuznetsova, often our fears of seeming intrusive are unjustified. They come from our heads from our own complexes: excessive suspiciousness.
“We evaluate any situation from the height of our bell tower, and therefore everything is just our fears. Another great one said that the border of your ego is the border of your consciousness. That is, we create problems for ourselves and cultivate complexes within ourselves. And if for some reason you think that you are imposing yourself on a person, then, most often, you are mistaken,” says the psychologist.
At the same time, we are most afraid of appearing intrusive when. This is normal - all our fears intensify at the moment when we are interested in a relationship, because we do not want to lose someone who is dear to us. In a situation where we don’t need a person, we behave very naturally. We are not afraid to ask: “If they send it, they will send it,” we don’t react to rudeness: “What can we do, the interlocutor is a boor,” we think. That is, we do not take any response from our counterparts personally, as in the case of interest in a partner.
Obsession is...
Elena Kuznetsova defined obsession as follows: ignorance of limits, lack of tact and manifestation of selfishness - all together. In real life, obsession manifests itself in repeated repetition of the same situation. Moreover, actions are carried out rapidly, one after another, with virtually no time intervals.
But in the situation described above, the woman with her proposals did not seem intrusive, since some time passed between her proposals, during which she may have met the subject of her interest under other circumstances, for example, at work, and saw the man’s reaction to her person, could evaluate this very reaction.
“Imposition is a package of actions that are carried out rapidly, that is, an attempt to “shove” everything that should last several months into one day. The imposition has a short-term period,” the psychologist emphasizes.
When you're in a relationship...
At the stage of conquering a man or woman, one must act very subtly so as not to frighten off the object of passion. When, they feel more confident, but here another danger may lie in wait for them - the conviction that possessing a partner gives the right to strictly control him. For example, arrange interrogations or call at any time of the day.
A typical situation is when a woman and a man agree to call each other, and the man should call first. and begins to pester the partner with calls with statements like: “I’m tired of waiting, you promised to call me tomorrow, but I decided tonight. And in general, I tried to call you, you didn’t pick up the phone. I tried to call again...” This . It is important to treat your partner with reverence, to compromise, and to be able to hear your loved one.
Another example: a man and a woman agree in the morning to have dinner in the evening. No sooner had we parted than the lady called: “See you in the evening?” An hour later - again: “Is everything okay?” Another hour later: “Have you already chosen a restaurant?” and so on - hourly calls throughout the day.
“There is no need to pester your partner with endless personal calls. Frequent calls are justified only if you are solving some business issues,” states Kuznetsova.
The psychologist also notes that it is always important to pay attention - how quickly he responded, for example, to your call or message.
“Women really like to steal phraseology. Men often by nature respond briefly. And here the young lady needs to try to do everything in doses, wait for her partner’s reaction. For example, she took the initiative, asked something, the man should answer her. After this, if the woman still has some questions, she should think about whether she is calling her partner on time, maybe she should postpone the conversation, because her man is still at work and is not in the mood for personal conversations. All these points must be sensitively felt and taken into account,” advises the interpersonal relationship consultant.
About male obsession...
Most often, women who conquer men are called obsessive. Representatives of the stronger sex who persistently win passion are considered heroes. This is explained by our mentality and upbringing.
Historically, Russians and women should be celebrated for their modesty, Kuznetsova notes. It just so happened that the lady, as a weaker creature, sits by the window and waits for her prince, who, after meeting his beloved, must look after her for some time and give her buttercup flowers. And if the young lady does not fall into the arms of the prince, then it is normal for a man to be persistent and...
Helpful information
Elena Kuznetsova, director of the dating agency “I and You”, family psychologist. Phone 8-920-909-62-35.However, representatives of the stronger sex can also be intrusive. At the conquest stage, this can manifest itself in the fact that they categorically continue to push even after the woman has openly said several times that she does not want a relationship.
When people are in a union, a man’s obsession can manifest itself in hyperprotection towards a woman. There are representatives of the stronger sex who call their girlfriend hourly and ask her if she has eaten, if she is dressed warmly, if she has gotten her feet wet, and so on. Perhaps some young ladies will like such excessive care, but others will find it annoying.
If you have questions for psychologist Elena Kuznetsova, you can ask them by writing a letter to the editorial office of AiF-Vladimir: [email protected] .
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